Post # 1
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Wannabee
A couple that I do not know invited my boyfriend to their wedding. There was no plus one on the invite. My boyfriend asked the groom (they’re good friends) if he could bring me. The groom said he’d let him know – if enough people turned down their invites, I could attend. As it turns out, enough people declined so I will be attending. I asked my boyfriend if there was a gift registry. He said he’d taken care of the gift. I told him I wanted to help chip in or get them something small since they were kind enough to let me attend (and I know every head costs money) and they didn’t really have to. Is it awkward if I get them a small gift? I could even put both our names on it so it’s not as awkward.
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
mustangwind: It would be a nice gesture, but not mandatory. I would go in on the gift your boyfriend is giving them and put both of your names on that card instead.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Here we gift checks at a wedding and if you bring a plus one you usually give double the amount. So your boyfriend should have already taken care of it. I would not worry about it.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
Well it was rude of them to not include you in the first place. You aren’t a plus one, you are a significant other and as such you should have been invited, by name, on the invitation.
Personally, I wouldn’t get them anything.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Honestly? I don’t think that you need to get them a small gift. Let your boyfriend do the gift, and contribute if you want, but don’t worry about a gift from yourself.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
You can just stick your name on the card along with your BF’s gift. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 7
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Wannabee
Thanks for the responses.
I think I’m going to not get them a gift myself. I asked my boyfriend if I could chip in and he said not to worry about it. So it looks like I’m going giftless.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
mustangwind: If your BF was really nice then he would just tell you that the gift he bought (you know, since he knows the couple and you don’t) will just be from the two of you, thus you wouldn’t be going giftless.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
You’re not going giftless, you are part of a couple and your boyfriend is giving them a gift. That counts for you, too. I didn’t get two presents from every couples at my wedding, that’s nuts.
Post # 10
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Wannabee
This is my first wedding so I’m learning haha.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
mustangwind: Just make sure your name is also on the card that your BF is giving them with their gift/check/etc. I don’t see why it shouldn’t be since you guys are a couple.