(Closed) Gift etiquette question- to open or not to open?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1190 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would say open it and send the thank you card. If I was the person sending and hadn’t heard anything from the bride and groom I would think they hadn’t received it.

Post # 4
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

open it, and send the thanks yous now. You’ll want to make sure the item didn’t get damaged in shipping-better chances of getting the issue resolved now, than in 3 months. Also-the gift givers will wonder if you received it, if they don’t hear from you. If they send it early, they’re going to expect it to be opened.

Post # 5
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Open gifts as soon as you receive them! If the givers wanted you to open the gift later, they’d wait to give it to you. Open and then immediately send the Thank You (so they don’t worry about whether or not it arrived).


Post # 6
1698 posts
Bumble bee

Awedding is not like Christmas, where you dedicate half the day to an orgy of present-opening and boxes arrive marked “do not open until….” You are going to have more important things going on on your wedding day. On the day you return from your honeymoon you are going to have to pick up your new role of “wife” and start using all those lovely new housewares immediately. So gift-givers are in fact supposed to send things to your current home ahead of time, and you are supposed to unpack them and get them set up so they are ready and waiting when your new husband carries you across the threshold of your new home.

A shower is a party where the primary entertainment is watching the bride open presents that are brought to the shower. If a gift arrives you can assume it is a wedding present unless it is  marked “do not open until the shower”.


And send a thank-you note before you go to bed tonight.

Post # 7
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Open and send the card now! the giver might be worried if they don’t hear from you, plus it is lne more thing to get out of the way when you have some time now.

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