Post # 1
My super close friend is getting married in a couple of weeks and I am the Maid/Matron of Honor in the wedding. My fiance is also in the wedding, and he is the bride’s cousin (= how I met him). She will also be the MOH in our wedding next year, and her hubby to be is also in our wedding..
Anyways, I don’t know what to get them for their wedding gift. I don’t want to give them money, because they will just be handing it back to us next year and it just seems impersonal. They don’t really ‘need’ anything in particular. I wanted to do something meaningful, but cannot come up with any ideas. I was thinking of getting them something from their registry that I know they want, but that also doesn’t seem special enough..
Post # 3
I would recommend you get something off their registry and then add some personal touches to it
Post # 4
We were in a similar situation with our wedding. We just gave them what we would have given if our wedding wasn’t shortly after (a check for an amount larger than we give at most weddings, since we were close). They gave us the same amount a few months later.
It’s awkward, but there’s really no way around it. If you get them something off their registry, they will know the amount and probably give you an item of the same amount back. If you give them something more personal, they can likely still find out the amount. (I usually hate giving non-cash, non-registry items, because a potentially unwanted gift feels wasted to me).
Just pretend you’re not getting married and give them what you normally would! 😉
Post # 5
What about getting them a framed invitation from their wedding? You can still add some cash or a present off the registry but maybe try to come up with something personal.
One thing that most people don’t register is stuff from their alma matter. If you know they are big sports fans, maybe try to get them something along those lines. Someone gave us a nice set of glasses with the FSU logo on them.
Post # 6
I agree with stlginkgo- get something off of their registry and also something else that is more personal. Maybe a really nice framed picture of them? Or maybe even a gift certificate to their favorite restaurant? I like giving gifts to couples that will allow them to go out and do stuff that they enjoy together. As a gift to a couple I know who enjoy cooking, I paid for them to attend couples cooking class.
Post # 7
We’re in a similar situation, but our friends are not registered anywhere. I don’t like the idea of giving them money, but they just moved into a house and really want to put up a fence. Our idea is we’ll right a cheque, but right in the memo line that it’s for their fence fund, or something like that. Would that be an option for you? Do they need to make a major purchase soon?
Post # 8
Make it personal. You can go on our off registry. Maybe get them a gift certificate to their favorite restaurant (or a really expensive one they would never go to themselves). For some good friends, I bought their champagne flutes, and I’m giving them after the wedding with a few bottles of champagne that we can use to break in the glasses! Another set of good friends always have backyard bbqs. I got them the bean bag toss game and personalized it for them. Whatever you do, make it extra special by going above and beyond the normal registry gift, and they will love it!
Post # 9
We just went through this with FI’s brother a couple weeks ago… we ended up deciding that money was a good option for them, but that it was too impersonal, so we used the idea from Mrs. Dachshund here http://www.weddingbee.com/2010/06/04/the-metal-box/ and recreated this present, putting a few hundred dollars inside the box. They absolutely LOVED it.. it was personal and nice, but was still money, which we know they needed. Everyone who was there when they opened it thought it was a fantastic and great idea!!!
Post # 10
I agree with getting something off of the registry. You can always ass something else, but I know that I want the things on my registry for sure.