Gift for courthouse wedding? No invite, no reception

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
8937 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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gingercatter :  Yep, sounds like she’s being obnoxious. I’d just ignore it and give whatever I would otherwise give based on my budget and relationship with her. 

Post # 3
2011 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d give a card…from everyone at the office.
Maybe one of those jumbo ones where everyone can write their own notes and well wishes.

Post # 4
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

That’s pretty awful.  I would write them a nice card, but no gift.

Post # 5
1918 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I would get her a card from everyone at the office and get together and get her a group office gift

Post # 6
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

That’s gift grabby as all hell.  They’re not hosting anybody for anything yet expect gifts and honeymoon contributions? So damn rude.  I’d get them the most obnoxious garden gnome I could find.

Post # 7
363 posts
Helper bee

Bring your own hotdogs and bring me a present? No thanks. 

Post # 8
667 posts
Busy bee

Grabby much?! Can’t believe they have a registry and a go fund me. Purely to be polite and not stoop to their level I would go for a group card and gift like a bottle of champagne. 

Post # 10
4774 posts
Honey bee

Nope. Nope nope nope.

Ignore the texts. If you feel compelled, have a group congratulations card from the office.  

If your office routinely celebrates life events like this (has a cake during break time, chips in together for a small gift) then just do what you normally do.  If you have already done that, don’t feel compelled to do more.  If you don’t normally do anything, feel free to continue doing nothing.

Post # 11
4849 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ehhhh maybe a congratulatory card. 

Post # 12
1836 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I wouldn’t reward obnoxiousness with a gift!

Post # 13
13888 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d probably get a card and have the whole office sign.  No gift necessary, and sounds like she’s being super pushy which would turn me off from wanting to buy her anything.

Post # 14
3222 posts
Sugar bee

I would gift her something useful. A book on manners.

Post # 15
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

If you like her, I’d still give her a smallish gift to celebrate their marriage. Or contribute 50 bucks to the honeymoon fun. Whether or not they’re hosting a reception, they’re still getting married and it’s a nice gesture. If you don’t really like her, then just do a card, no big deal.

Post # 16
3250 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m on team “just a card”. 

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