Post # 1
My Fiance brother is getting married next weekend and he is the bestman. It is a destination wedding and our hotel and plane tickets are super expensive. (wouldn’t be so bad if we weren’t getting married too!) my Fiance also footed most of the bill for a pricey Vegas bachelor party. We are kind of tight on money and I guess I’m not looking for an exact number to give…but how much should we give as a gift?? I also know that the wedding expenses have been all paid for by the brides parents (we are paying for our own) I just don’t know what would be appropriate to give since we’ve already spent so much but it is family. Any advice would be appreciated!
Post # 3
I think that it can vary greatly from family to family, or depending on what social circle you are in, but maybe $50 or $100? I’m sure they’ll understand that you’ve already spent a lot of money.
Oh, and when I first read your post title, I was confused b/c I could figure out how “dear wife” had anything to do with it, lol!
Post # 4
Give whatever you feel comfortable giving. Gifts are NEVER required, so even a heartfelt card at the wedding is acceptable, and then maybe you can invite them over for dinner when you all return.
Post # 5
@red_rose: I agree that this would vary greatly from family to family so it’s difficult to give advice. I would give him the same amount you would have if the wedding was local.
Post # 6
@futuremrsfitz18: umm idk I think when your brother is getting married SOME sort of gift is required, even if it’s a destination wedding–it’s the thought that counts
I would suggest a heartfelt gift over $
Post # 7
I would give what you can afford & not stress about it. I’m in the camp that believes that a gift is not required for a destination wedding, but I would probably never attend one without a gift, anyway (I know, sounds backwards). I think $50 would be reasonable.
Post # 8
I personally will be happy without a single gift. I am a bride getting married 1,000 miles away from my hometown and from the town I live in now. I’m lucky enough to have friends and family willing to travel to be with my fiance and I for our wedding so anything else it just a bonus and absolutely not expected. But that is jsut my opinion.
Post # 9
@sylvia.riggle: gifts are never required, actually. If OP is truly struggling to just get to the wedding I’m sure the bride and groom are happy to know that she has notspent money she does not have on them.
If any of my guests decides not to give me a gift that is entirely their choice and I won’t hold it against them one bit.
Post # 10
You know, I gotta be honest, but if I was having a Destination Wedding (i sorta am but its super cheap – camping!), I would’t expect a gift. At all. Actually, I wouldn’t EXPECT a gift regardless.
That said, I always hate to have egg on my face so I would probably do something creative like collect momentos from the Destination Wedding (shells, rocks, etc) and make a frame for one of their wedding photos. Just *something* so that I could give them that had a special meaning. I’m sure they understand how much people had to sacrifice to get there.