- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Considering we’ve already begun to venture over our $4,000 budget for our wedding when we cannot really afford to… my mother is a godsend. She has been purchasing things for me without me needing to ask and without asking for me to pay her back for the purchases. So far she’s bought my MOH’s (sister) entire outfit, all the candy favours, the card box, the flower girl/ring bearer accessories… so far she has spent probably about $200 out of her own pocket and without her chances are the wedding wouldn’t be as nice.
I want to be able to get her a gift but I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. At the time I cannot afford to really get her any kind of nice gift (a lot of birthdays plus the wedding over the next couple of months) plus she will probably be upset if she knows that I spent money that I shouldn’t have on her.
My initial idea was to buy a nice frame and get one of the pictures of my parents and sister with me at the wedding printed for her… but then that’ll be given months after the wedding and it would be more appropriate as a Christmas gift. I want to be able to give it to her before the wedding or even at it.
Jewellery is out of the question, every piece I have ever bought for her ends up being worn once and thrown into her jewellery box never to be seen again. She also is not one for decorations or ornaments because they are “clutter” and get hidden away too. She isn’t into reading or movies, the only hobby she has is walking and she is very picky about purchasing all her own stuff for that.
My friend recommended a gift card for dinner but my worry is that if she knows exactly how much money I spent on it (it would probably be $100) that she’d become uncomfortable with it because in her mind I should not be dropping that kind of cash on her. If I took her out for dinner she would purposefully order the cheapest thing on the menu and just eat later at home to avoid costing me money.
The closest idea I have is to get her a clutch purse for at the wedding because I know she is currently looking for one but I feel bad getting her something that she can only use at the wedding (she is not a purse person at all).
Any suggestions on what I could get for her?