Post # 1
One of my supervisors at work just got married to her long-term partner. It was a sudden courthouse wedding, due to certain logistics (in preparation for a military relocation). I’ve known her less than a year, but she’s a great supervisor and I’m going to miss her when she moves! I’ve been invited to an informal celebration of their marriage at their home, and I have no idea what would be approrpiate gift. Since they’re moving far away, I can’t give a physical gift – I think a check is the only option. The problem is that she’s an older woman with an established career, whereas I’m a grad student on a tight budget! Just about any gift is a stretch for me, but I could reasonably afford $30. I am worried that is an insultingly low amount to give. What do you gals think? I appreciate your advice!
Post # 3
@LittleByLittle: Hmm whoops. Meant to hit the heartfelt card option!
It’s only a celebration of their marriage, but not an actual wedding, so they probably aren’t expecting gifts from everyone. Compassionate people understand that not everyone can afford to gift-and that’s ok!
Post # 4
I wouldn’t expect any money, so the $30 would be a huge, lovely idea. I also think that a heartfelt card and maybe a little trinket (either gift card or home ornament) would be very thoughtful and charming.
Post # 5
Generally, it isn’t a great idea to give a gift to a supervisor/boss/etc. individually. Are other students going? If so, go with a group gift, even if it’s one big cheque.
Post # 6
@LittleByLittle: give her the $30 and a heartfelt card. that’s what i would do.
Post # 7
@LittleByLittle: I would get her a small gift, such as a vintage bottle of wine, rather than cash. I have people reporting to me and I wouldn’t be expecting anything, so it’s a very nice gesture.
Post # 8
For a courthouse wedding, I wouldn’t expect any gifts. A card would be awesome and maybe a little token for the day. I like @MrsPanda99: suggestion of wine.
Post # 9
I would bring a card and a bottle of wine. Since it’s an informal celebration, maybe they aren’t expecting gifts. But I wouldn’t show up to a hosted celebration empty handed. If she’s older and established, $30 is sort of “pointless” for lack of a better word. I wouldn’t say insulting, but it’s just sort of insignificant.
Post # 10
@LittleByLittle: I would give her a gift card to somewhere fun. Find a restaurant in the area for them to have a dinner out and get to know their new town better. Or perhaps a housewares shop where they can pick something out for their new home. Maybe a movie theater.
Otherwise, get their new address and have welcome flowers or a gift basket delivered.
Post # 11
Card for sure. If you absoilutely can’t send a physical gift but would like to give her something, maybe a gift card (for dinner or the movies or something). I would feel really awkward giving my supervisor straight up cash or check. At least with a gift card you can be like “Have dinner on me!”
Post # 12
Either just a card or a card + wine or some other very small gift. I’d feel terrible if an employee felt like she had to give me hard-earned money!
Post # 13
@pinkshoes: +1. No gift with good intentions is an “insult” but $30 wouldn’t be very significant for me. I’d rather the wine!
Post # 15
I think wine and a card is a fabulous idea. Even though it’s a physical gift, they can enjoy it fully before their big move, and you don’t have to show up empty handed.
Post # 16
I think the nice card and either a bottle of wine, christmas ornament, etc. would be very appropriate. Check out this site if you’re looking for small, under $30, personalized gifts: http://www.personalizationmall.com. Items normally come within 3 or so days, so shipping is quick!