Gift for weddin with no serve dinner?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Did you give her a gift for any of her showers? If so I would skip a gift completely. If not maybe a small gift, but I don’t think you’re expected to give anything since you’ve already put in lots of money & time. I wouldn’t expect gifts from my bridal party.

Post # 3
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Honey bee

wilsoncraig :  Uhm no dinner (and please no one give me a lecture about how you came to the wedding not for the food etc but to see these 2 people get married)? You give her a big fat NOTHING…nuff said!

Post # 4
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712 posts
Busy bee

Open bar and no dinner sounds like a disaster! You have spent enough. A nice card will do.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

wilsoncraig :  Open bar with nibbles? Sounds like a disaster. I would get her a nice card. No need for a gift.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

wilsoncraig :  Bridal party isn’t required to give a gift. Your offering is your time, the expense of your attire, and all the other wedding related costs. Give her a nice card to tell her you’re happy for her and call it a day. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

wilsoncraig :  You’ve given multiple gifts in the form of parties. She isn’t even feeding the guests? Get a nice card, that’s it. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

To me, being a bridesmaid is what would “excuse” you from giving a gift because you’ve already done a lot for the wedding instead. (Maybe I’m overly optimistic, but having a cocktail hour instead of a dinner seems like a weird reason to not give a gift.) I’d give a heartfelt card if you feel odd about showing up without some kind of thing to give; that seems totally fine given how much you’ve already done for her!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Ummm why are you feeling guilty?  You’ve gone above and beyond and it sounds like your wallet is starting to scream “uncle”.  Get her a nice card and call it a day.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

The lack of dinner isn’t a reason to forgo giving a wedding present, but being a member of the bridal party who has thrown multiple pre-wedding parties and given shower gifts is.  

 

Bring a lovely card.  If you really feel guilty not giving a gift, you can get the bride some monogrammed notecards with her new monogram for $20 or so.  She’ll be writing a gazillion thank you notes so they’ll be useful! 

Post # 13
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Worker bee

dgirl715 :  this is perfect. 

 

Also, when is this wedding? She should really really offer dinner if she’s going to have an open bar. That’s just good sense. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I never expected gifts from my bridal party. 

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