Post # 1
Hey Bees, my fiance and I have been invited to a wedding that won’t be providing dinner. The location of the wedding is very nice and the ceremony starts at 6pm on a Wednesday. It has seemed pretty informal so far, with RSVPing online and Facebook updates.
I’m sure there will be appetizers and dessert and I understand how much it costs to feed people!
They aren’t registered anywhere and I was going to give a giftcard or cash. So, how much is proper to give? I would normally give $100. However, do you think the fact that they won’t be providing dinner effects how much you give?
Also, my fiance does not own a suit besides the one he purchased for our wedding. Do you think he will be the only guy there simply dressed in a shirt and tie?
Post # 3
I don’t think being fed is relevant, give what your comfortable giving to the couple based on your relationship with them and budget.
Post # 4
@Nona99: Agreed. I don’t think people who have a lavish, $300 per plate affair with lots of expensive details deserve more than people who are having a cake & punch reception in their church’s basement. I also don’t agree with the idea of anyone paying for their plate or whatever. Guests do not pay for the wedding… cheap or expensive. I think guests should give what they can and want to give, based on their financial situations and relationship to the couple.
Post # 5
Exactly what @Nona99 said. It should be based on how close you are with the couple.
Post # 6
What you give is not based on what kind of reception they are having. Its based on helping a new couple get a start on their new life together. Linking it to the reception is a new thing and kind of awful.