Post # 1
so as I am Euroepan getting married to an American. I read somewhere that’s it’s a custom in the US to give a gift to your futur husband on the wedding day? (And vice versa) Is that true? I am not sure if he’s even aware of that tradition…
And if that’s a thing, what kind of gift is it supposed to be! Anything special or just something I know he wants?
Help is greatly appreciated. Wedding is in 22 days. 😊
Post # 2
We did this – I had to tell my now husband though 😉
I got him a very personalised book from LoveBook and a more gimmicky gift of a Game of Thrones t shirt: ‘I went to a wedding and all I got was this bloody t shirt’
I wanted to give something sentimental to keep forever but also typical of the kind of thing we’d do for each other.
Post # 3
discuss this with DH. I like that we had a reminder of our wedding. I got him a nice watch which he loves and needed and I received a pair of earrings. It reminds me of our wedding often, more so than our rings because it’s special.
It doesn’t need to be anything big, just something personal between the two of u. It’s completely optional too.
Post # 4
I have only seen this on heavily American oriented websites such as this one! Although I’m sure various other cultures which I am less aware of must also have traditions like this. DH is also European (he had never heard of this) and I am Canadian. DH and I agreed that the entire wedding and getting married was our gift to eachother, and we didn’t need or didn’t want to spend the money on anything extra. But if you have money to spare, I think its a really nice sentiment.
Post # 5
Yes, it’s a thing, but my FH and I don’t plan to do this ourselves. Common gifts I’ve heard of are things like jewelry, cufflinks, an engraved Bible with new last name….the idea is that the gift should be something lasting that they will have and use for years to come, not something like concert tickets. I’ve also heard of couples opting to write letters to each other, which I think is a nice touch, just not for us. More than likely FH and I will end up sending some ridiculous GIFs back and forth the morning of our wedding to show our excitement; it’s just more our style. We’ll have plenty of other momentos from the day that will last for years without having to spend more money on gifts for each other.
Post # 6
I gave my husband a gift but it just a small thing that was an inside joke between us. He did not get me a gift which was totally fine as I was not expecting one – I thought of mine the morning of the wedding.
I don’t actually know anyone IRL who gave a present to thier spouse on their wedding day.
Post # 7
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thank you all for your answers!
I thought of two things: he really wants a certain watch but that’s $$$. I wouldn’t want to purchase a multi thousand dollar watch without talking to him about it. He already has one and he rarely wears it in favor of his Apple Watch.
He has been talking about the go-pro for ever. I always talked him Out of it because I think it’s a useless gadget that will soon be decorating our gadgets-that-we-never-use-box. However we are getting married/having our honeymoon on Hawaii. A go pro would be neat for surfing and diving and whatnot… is that a legit option?
(I give him a foto book of the whole last year for Christmas every year – so that’s not an option)
Should I talk to him about this gift giving thing? I agree with 😜 that the wedding is a gift to us to begin with.
Post # 8
I would definitely discuss it with him before buying anything! He might not feel comfortable spending more money than you already have for that day, but especially give him a heads up so he doesn’t feel awful if you get him a gift and he doesn’t get you something too.
Post # 9
It’s good to discuss it. I wasn’t planning on doing it but my husband really wanted to get me a piece of jewelry that I could wear at our wedding and it ended up being a gorgeous bracelet, which I love and wear frequently. But we didn’t “exchange” gifts. He just got me the bracelet and received a happy new wife in return. 😉