Gift from estranged SIL…what to do?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: What should we do?
    Return it. : (15 votes)
    23 %
    Send a standard thank-you note. : (30 votes)
    46 %
    Call to give thanks. : (6 votes)
    9 %
    Ignore it. : (14 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 17
    9000 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    ironmaidelah :  Honestly you all sound childish. She has made a decision to decline your invitation (which is her right since an invitation isn’t a subpoena) over you having a childfree wedding (which is your right but you don’t get to complain when people decline, especially immediate family member, when it doesn’t work for them) and then sent a card/gift which you and your husband are being childish about.

    Sorry but when you place restrictions on your guestlist you can’t be surprised when guests, especially those travelling from across the country, decline the invite.

    And your husband is being a big old baby. I know his feelings are hurt but so are his sisters. You are excluding their family members and that is personal to them. They are feeling and expressing the exact same thing that your husband is- hurt over a family member being what they feel is a dick.

    Post # 19
    9000 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    ironmaidelah :  accept it, thank them and apologise for my part (the reaction and for their disppointment in the childfre wedding) in the whole childish shit show.

    Post # 21
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Ignore it and rip up the check. Your husband has made it clear that he doesn’t want to resume contact currently. Returning or thanking them is giving them contact and will reinforce future contact attempts. The fact that they’ve ignored the problem shows the attempt at contact is in their own interests.

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