(Closed) Gift from husband, would you be put off too?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@KH:  I would be upset, too. I’m sorry!! 

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I wouldn’t be upset if it was my husband. I would probably think he was pretty goofy though for thinking that that was a good gift idea, but sometimes people dont’ totally think things through. He probably read that in his book and thought “hey, I’ve been wanting to do something nice for KH and she doesn’t have any of this cream yet!”. 

Post # 20
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Newbee

Guys are strange like that. I’m going to guess he thought he was doing you a favor by picking up something you may or may not need eventually. To them, it’s an item. To us, it’s tear-inducing. (Source: I’m an engineer in an all male office. I’m constantly having to explain the female perspective to those dorks. ๐Ÿ™‚ )

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m 32 weeks and was plus sized before and I’m still struggling to get used to my big ole belly!! I love it and I love my baby inside it.. BUT.. It’s hard to bend over, and everyday something else doesn’t fit, and shaving my legs leaves me winded!!  Hahahahaha So don’t fret ๐Ÿ™‚ I would’ve been emotional over that gift too, even though I already have plenty of stretch marks pre-pregnancy!! Hahahaaha

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think your overreacting. It’s cream. Guys aren’t good gift givers and he had good intentions. Chillax!

Post # 23
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Sugar bee

I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt your feelings. However, I can definitely see why you’d get upset. I’d be crying too! ๐Ÿ™ *hugs*

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@KH:  Of course he meant well! But I’d be super pissed and hurt about this “gift.” I’d try to explain why I feel the way I do so that he doesn’t so something like that again. But if he still doesn’t get it tell him that him giving you cream for the inevitable stretch marks you’re going to get just because you’re pregnant is equal to you giving him Rogain for the inevitable balding he is going to have just because he is getting older. See if he gets it then. ;o)

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@KH:  I think you’re overreacting. You’re pregnant, you’re going to get stretch marks. The earlier you start with the cream, the less severe and more likely to disappear they’ll be. I think it was rude of your husband to say you’re not excited, but I think you’re over reacting about the cream. Don’t think of it as weight gain, think of it as your child growing in you. They’re the one who is gaining weight. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@paula1248 how is that inappropriate? She’s pregnant, she’s going to get stretch marks. I think it was thoughtful of him to get it for her, since it will prevent visibility of them, and he knows she’s self conscious of the weight gain. 

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think its a pretty insensitive gift. I wouldn’t flip out over it or anything though, sometimes men are just clueless. I’m sure he had good intentions and thought you would appreciate it.

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@KH:  Have you brought up your concern about stretch marks to him? If so, then I would not be offended because he is trying to help you. If you have never brought it up, then it stands to reason that he is the one who is concerned, which would piss me off.

Also, just because you aren’t embracing getting fat doesn’t mean you don’t want a baby. Tell him to get fat and push a baby out of his penis and then tell you how he feels about the whole thing. Men!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It sounds like something my husband would do. I’m sure it’s all out of love. I think he was just trying to take care of you. I have my days of overreacting so I totally sympathize. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@PinkMermaid:  Yah, this.
The gift wasn’t intended to hurt you.

Men just have difficultly imagining all the potential reactions to their actions sometimes.. lol

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