Post # 62
Thank you all for the reasoned responses. We talked it through last night. Some things I didn’t mention was how tired I was at the time from working 12 hour days all weekend with no day off since 8/11, DH was out of town last weekend so in addition to working I was on dog duty, we leave for vacation (which I planned) this Friday so I’ve been trying to coordinate last minute details and doing laundry/packing/arraning dog care, and my tenant moved out of the apartment 8/17 and the new one moves in today so I’ve been busy touching up paint and cleaning it.
Add to that my family, who tells me every time we talk about my pregnancy how my grandma never looked pregnant, my mom didn’t show until 6 months with any of her kids and my grandpa making fun of how Kate Middleton looked the day after giving birth. I’ve felt a lot of judgement from them about my body and weight.
After talking it through, he was giving me a great lotion, but never corrected me when I called it stretch mark cream (because that is highlighted on the label). He admits that the delivery was off and understands how tired I was and how I’ve felt pressure related to my weight. We both apologized (me for getting overly emotional, him for the delivery) and are both over it.
Again, I appreciate all the comments. The supportive comments helped calm me down and the critical ones reminded me of his point of view and what I probably would have done if I was a little more rationale. Thank you, ladies!!!
Post # 63
Aw, bless, he sounds like a well-meaning guy who hasn’t got a clue about how his gift comes across. It would probably just make me laugh if my DH did that, mostly because I find it endearing that they’re so clueless in their attempts to be helpful sometimes.
Post # 64
@KH: I would have made a sarcastic comment to him, but dont be upset he didnt mean anything by it .
Post # 65
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
for me it depends on presentation. If he tossed it at you and said something along the lines of “ummm you really need this, it’s getting gross” THEN I’d be upset. But it seems he meant it as a gift and with good intentions. I would appreciate he is accepting my body and it’s changes 🙂
Post # 66
My Fiance tells me we are putting Palmers on a daily basis when I’m pregnant.(even though I don’t even think that works!!!) He is Carmel color tan Puerto Rican and I am white. On his body, stretch marks show a lot worse than on mine. I think bc his sister’s pregnancy stretch marks showed so much he is totally freaked out by them now. I know I will probably get them but I think they will show less bc I’m very white Casper looking. l wouldn’t worry about it, he is probably trying to be helpful in “preventing” them but i think they are inevitable. It’s a sucky thing but the baby will make it worth it!
Post # 67
Glad you are getting your head in the game about this and feeling better!! Be proud of how your body changes, it is not just YOUR body anymore! It’s changing to support and give life to your little one! Let everyone else keep their hang ups about what pregnant women are supposed to look like.
Easier said than done, lol, because of course it bothers you too! But your opinion is the only one that matters about what you look like.