(Closed) Gift giving etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you are not able to attend , a gift should not be expected. Gifts should never be expected anyway.

If you want to give a gift…. do they have a registry?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you are not in touch on a regular basis and are clearly a B list invite, I would send a card.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You are not expected to give a gift. 

You have options:

1. Give them something if you like and spend what you can afford. 

2. Send them a nice card with your decline (or after you decline so it arrives sometime around the wedding)

3. Send the decline and be done with it. 

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with PP. I would send a card. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if you are not close, i would send a congrats card only

Post # 9
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

To completely ignore the wedding (i.e. not sending a card) could be considered rude, and might offend the bride to the point of ending whatever friendship you do have.  But a Congrats/Best Wishes card is all that’s required if you two are not close.

If you are in a position where you are financially able, and you feel as though you would LIKE to, go ahead and include a gift card or a check for a modest amount with the card.  Or send a thoughtful gift, like a small silver photo frame. Don’t feel as though you need to send a gift or money though.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Actually, I would say that every wedding invitation, whether you attend or not, receives a gift even if it is something small. If that is not a finacially viable option or you feel like maybe you shouldn’t really have been invitied (such as a coworker that you don’t really know) then I would at least send a card with a personally written message. Given the circumstances and your relationship with the bride I would say that you needn’t get anything extravagant. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I agree with @Zusie. 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@UmbrellaMoon:  Yep I agree.  DH’s childhood friends did not send us a gift nor any type of congrats when they couldn’t come to our wedding….he could care less about the gift but he’s most PO’d that they hadn’t acknowledged that we got married until recently….when they wanted to share THEIR news with us. 

Just saw a couple a few weeks ago….we drove an hour to visit them in her hometown in Germany and they didn’t ask us anything about the wedding….Darling Husband says he’s done with them.  They only wanted to talk about how Darling Husband can get him a job over here….LOSERS! 

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