(Closed) Gift giving etiquette…

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It isn’t necessary as gift-giving is always from the heart of the giver and never required, but if you like these people and you would have brought a gift if you had been able to attend, then you should send one.

Post # 4
378 posts
Helper bee

I can’t make it to a wedding in May and I’m absolutely still getting them a gift.

Post # 5
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

yes i would still give a gift. you have to think about why you’re giving a gift. you’re not giving a gift because you’re going to their wedding. you’re giving a gift to them to celebrate their marriage.

Post # 6
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would still send a gift – to express your good wishes for the couple and your appreciation of the invitation. 

Post # 7
596 posts
Busy bee

i’m probably in the minority here but i would say this depends on your personal relationship with the couple.  if you are close to them and would like to send them a gift to congratulate and celebrate, then by all means go ahead.  if you don’t feel all that close to them, you should not feel compelled to send a gift. 

think of it this way…do you send a gift for every party that you miss, such as birthday celebrations, housewarmings, dinner parties, showers, etc.?  i don’t think the rule of thumb should be that you have to send a gift.  it’s totally up to you and how close you are with the couple.

Post # 8
44 posts

You need to send a gift. It doesn’t need to be a large gift by any means, but etiquette wise- if  you are invited to a wedding, you need to send a gift. Again, it can be very small but definitely send something.

Post # 9
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA

Ettiquette states that you send a gift if you’re invited, regardless if you attend or not. You are not obliged to give a gift if you’re sent an "announcement" after the wedding has occurred.

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