- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Aww, I feel you ladies’ pain. My husband is the king of telling me what he was GOING to get me as a gift, but then changed his mind. If I hear one more time “oh, I saw a nice sweatshirt at the mall today, and I know you’ve been wanting a new sweatshirt, but…I wound up not getting it” I’m probably going to cry. That said, I think I can work with him more in this area. If he knew my clothing and shoe sizes, for example, I think he’d be more confident to surprise me with things. So I’ll make sure I tell him. I admittedly have quite expensive tastes (and needs) and I can see why my husband would be apprehensive about buying me something that is lower quality. Once he bought me a beautiful pair of gold earrings and I really loved them, but they were only 10karat so I developed a hideous purple rash all over my ears and neck. It broke my heart to have to stop wearing them and I couldn’t ask him to exchange them because I knew they were probably the best he could afford at the time.
Also, our finances are 100% integrated and I hold the purse strings so it’s really hard for him to buy me anything without my knowing about it. Receiving surprise gifts is important enough to me that I don’t mind relinquishing some of the cash control to enable him to have more discretionary cash (to spend on me, lol).