Post # 1
My bachelorette party is this weekend and it has been planned by my three wonderful bridesmaids. I don’t know much details about the weekend, but from the little bit I do know, I know that the ladies have put a lot of time, energy, and effort into planning a fabulous weekend! 🙂
I got the three of them gifts to say thank you for planning such a special weekend for me, and I would like to give the gifts to them this weekend. However, I have a few other friends (non-bridesmaids) also attending bachelorette weekend. I didn’t get everyone gifts because the present is a thank you gift to the bridesmaids for the weekend. Is it inappropriate to give the bridesmaids their thank you gift this weekend when I didn’t get everyone a gift? I’d really like to give them this weekend, since it’s a thank you for the weekend, but I’m not sure…..
Thank you! 🙂
Post # 3
Maybe at the end when everyone is leaving ask them to stick around a little. IMO it would be kinda rude to give them gifts in front of everyone.
Post # 4
If you are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings maybe you should have the bridesmaids over Thursday for a “last minute detail” meeting and give the gifts out then.
You can also do it ceremoniously at dinner during the trip and give the bridesmaids a toast. I dont think honoring the hostesses in front of guests is a negative thing.
Post # 5
Thank you both for your feedback. Also, if it makes a difference I am pretty sure that everyone attending is paying a set amount to cover the hotel, activities, etc. Everyone is paying their own way and splitting to cover my share (at least I am pretty sure). So the BMs aren’t paying for everyone for the weekend.
Does that make a difference on the gift situation? Should I be getting everyone, not just BMs, a thank you gift? Like I said, the purpose of my gift is to thank them for planning the weekend. I’ve been a part of planning bachelorette parties before and I know the time and effort of researching things, coming up with ideas, reservations, planning, etc. is more meaningful and time consuming than the actual money part of the weekend.
I would love to just be able to give the gifts to them separately in advance, but only one Bridesmaid or Best Man lives locally.
New thoughts hehe? 🙂
Post # 6
I think it is not needed to get everyone something. A bachelorette party is something fun for people to do. So they are probably half paying their way to celebrate with you and half because of the event itself. It is their choice to take part but it is your bridesmaids whom have done the research and planning so I believe they are the ones who deserve the gift.
Though there are some of those people whom would probably get offended thinking that bc they paid too and didnt get a gift. So you can avoid that kind of peoples bs, I would give the gifts in private. Im sure you can get them away at some point of after the night winds down.
Post # 7
It’s perfectly appropriate to give your BMs gift for planning/hosting. Just don’t do it in front of your other friends. It will just remind them that they aren’t BMs…