Post # 1
I am not sure what to do about gift giving for my girlfriend’s wedding. She is one of my dear friends and was a bridesmaid in my wedding. She is having a destination wedding in California Valentine’s day weekend and then having another ceremony/reception here on March 1st (so 2 weddings in 2 weeks). My husband and I are going to her ceremony in California and the one here. The question is with a gift. So far I have spent alot of money for her wedding. $150 for a shower gift, $1,200 for travel and accomodations for her wedding in CA. Typically – for a close friend I would give $300 for the gift but this is really getting to be expensive for me. Does it look bad if I only give one gift at the reception here. I was thinking $100 and a picture frame?
Post # 3
@krstino1012: I would give only one wedding gift, even though you are going to both ceremonies. But you were the one who decided you could afford to go to both ceremonies, so I don’t think it is fair to count the $1,200 travel expenses as part of her “gift” in your budget. I would gift her the same as you have any of your other friends who were getting married locally.
Post # 4
@krstino1012: I would only give a gift at one of the ceremonies. The $100 and a picture frame sounds more than generous!
Post # 5
I’d give only one gift, and if the travel expenses dictated that it were a less generous gift than usual, so be it. Bring a card to whichever event you don’t bring the gift to.
Post # 6
I think your gift is generous. Even though she’s having two celebrations, it’s still only one marriage.
Post # 7
I think your gift sounds good. I’m sure she’ll just be happy that you can make it to the CA celebration.