(Closed) Gift Grabby Showers

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Is it rude to throw your own shower?

    Yes - find someone else to do it

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  • Post # 48
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

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    @harperlynn:  gender reveal would be a great option! Or just invite friends over to hang & talk baby. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. Sorry you are so far from your family. We would throw you one of we could!!!

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Yes.  You’re having a party to solicit gifts.  How is that not gift grabby?

    Post # 50
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @harperlynn:  I really do think that a Baby-Q (adorable!) as someone else mentioned would be a great compromise.  Like I said in my response, it’s the term “shower” that becomes problematic (even if you say “no gifts”), because the whole concept is so gift-centric.  I’m sorry you’re getting such hassle for it, I really do think that having a celebration with your friends where it’s clear gifts aren’t expected would be a wonderful time for you all.  And some people may still bring you a gift, but you take the pressure off that way.

    Post # 51
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

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    @harperlynn:  well I think you should celebrate when the baby has arrived then. 

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Man! I like how someone said you shouldn’t throw yourself a birthday party then! It doesn’t sound lke you’re being gift grabby to me. I like the idea of a baby-q as it seems you’re looking for a get together with friends to celebrate baby. Yes, you asked for advice, so not saying people shouldn’t give it, but no one has to be rude or suggest you have no manners/etiquette. Don’t worry about what a bunch of internet strangers think. It’ll be nice to see internet etiquette emerge sometime soon this generation!

    Post # 55
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    Bee Keeper

    This thread is nauseating! Have a damn party (baby-q is awesome!) and never call it a shower or mention gifts and just tell your friends you want to get together and celebrate your baby and chat, play games, etc. Problem solved! Anyone who has a problem with that needs a reality check. 

    Post # 56
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    I love the gender reveal idea!

    Post # 57
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You’re only about 15 weeks pregnant, right? It’s a little early to be thinking about a baby shower. You have plenty of time to figure this out. You may have friends offer, or family offer — you can’t predict what the future holds on this one. Showers don’t have to be expensive — if your friends offer, I wouldn’t worry about the money.

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    if people don’t want to go because its tacky then fine. I am seriously tired of people saying its a gift grab to host it yourself. It’s a gift grab either way. And it’s the whole point. We hosted our own wedding. People throw their kids birthday parties. I’ve been to so many showers and given gifts I couldn’t have cared less who has hosted. The Internet is full of people with their own opinions of what’s proper and tacky. blegh! Plus baby showers minus gift opening is fun!

     

    Post # 59
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @Holly77:  I started a thread a while back asking about this and the general consesus was that the baby shower is the only gift etiquette requires.  I think that is too much if the mom expects a gift after as well.  I wouldn’t give another gift if I gave a a shower.  Maybe I’d send a card.

    Post # 60
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am baffled by everyone who says that a “baby party” is A-ok to throw but a shower isn’t.  They are exactly the same thing!  Under that logic a shower should always be tacky no?  It should never be ok to throw a “present” party, no matter who hosts.

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