Post # 1
Not sure what the etiquette says BUT….
I am a bridesmaid in a friends wedding out of state. There are 5 of us girls throwing the shower – we are all contiburing $150 each for the shower/Bachelorette Party (all on the same night), and her mother and aunt are contributing as well.
I automatically assumed that I would be giving her a gift on the day of her shower – in fact, I just sent out a email to the 2 of the other girls throwing out some gift ideas (one being a gift certificate for a B&B) in which we can go jointly in on the gift.
However, I recently read someone’s post in which a gift is NOT expected and that the shower should be enough.
Post # 3
i think it depends on how much you spend and what your budget is. i gave a gift for one shower that i threw cuz i had more money then and the budget wasn’t too bad but another one, i just threw the shower cuz i spent alot on food and such. so i think it depends on the scenario!
Post # 4
Well money is a little tight at this time since it is an out of state wedding and I am getting married 2 months later but she is a close friend so I don’t really mind….
While there is techinically 7 of us “throwing” the shower, only 2 people have actually done anything, The Maid/Matron of Honor and mother have taken it upon themselves to go out and buy everything – they only ask that we contirbute $ and help set everything up the day of. They are basically doing everything since they are in the same state as the showr and 3 of us are in different states even though we ave asked numerous times to be included in the planning etc. (this is a whole other situation…)
Post # 5
I would still get her a shower gift, personally. You don’t have to spend that much.