(Closed) Gift opening dilemna – to have or not to have

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
866 posts
Busy bee

I am questioning the gift opening as well. I hate opening gifts in front of a big group of people, my bridal shower was bad enough!  I don’t kno what I will do personally but I think if you feel strongly about it, just skip it. No one will remember or care in 6 months

Post # 5
8827 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@spacey:  are these wedding gifts?  definately i would just do it with your and your husband and if you need a few other people at the most.


Post # 6
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve never even heard of these, but I say absolutely not. Uncomfortable, you need to spend time with your husband and not random people you don’t like, and how rude insisting that it be at your house. 

Tell her no. End of story.

Post # 7
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t blame you in the slightest. Why should you have to host people (that you never really wanted) at your house the day after you hosted them at your wedding? That being said, if we had a yard (we live in a condo downtown), we would have a BBQ with JUST our wedding party and parents and maybe our overseas guests, but that’s more so that we could visit with the people we are closest with and that travelled so far to be with us at our wedding. I wouldn’t have invited all our out of town guests, because all of our guests are from out of town (I live 4 hours from where I grew up, FI’s family is mostly from overseas and isn’t coming).

The day after our wedding we are doing breakfast just the 2 of us (despite repeated offers from our parents to dine with them and their guests), and running away back to our little condo downtown. We even discussed going to the baseball game (we have season’s passes, so that will depend on how tired we feel). My parents are sticking around for a few days, so we’ll get together with them and my FI’s parents and open gifts on the Monday or Tuesday.

Post # 8
8 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013

Is this for Wedding gifts? Or bridal shower gifts? For bridal shower gifts you can just ask people not wrap the gifts so you can just enjoy more time with your guest. If you mean wedding gifts, I think that’s very strange. In my family ( and mostly everyone else I know) we only give money at a wedding. So to ask people to come over and watch you open up 100 cards filled with cash is definitely strange. That’s something the bride and groom do alone. 

Post # 9
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@spacey:  I’m not having a gift opening, and every married lady who I’ve said this to responded with “Good for you!” They’re awkward for everyone, you’re on display, it’s like a child’s birthday party and a ridiculous tradition. I slammed the brakes on that idea ASAP and told my mother in no uncertian terms that I’ll want to spend my first day as a married woman with my husband, not opening presents in front of people who either don’t want to be there or are just nosey. I think guests would really rather have a day to themselves and a thank-you card than stare at me as I awkwardly open gifts. How did things end up?

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