(Closed) Gift opening the day after??! NEED ADVICE

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Will you / Did you have a gift opening?
    YES! have one the following day in the afternoon : (7 votes)
    18 %
    MEH' still on the fence about it not sure : (2 votes)
    5 %
    NO! It's private, besides we will be too tired : (28 votes)
    70 %
    NO, had one hated it, do not do it! : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Other.... Here's an idea! : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m planning on doing one, sorta.  We are going to have a small brunch at my mom’s for close family/friends (bridal party/grandparents/sibs that kinda thing).  And we will be opening any gifts there.  It’s going to be very very low-key/casual.

    Post # 4
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    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have never really heard of this before. I guess its really not common in my area.  I just usally ship all my gifts to the bride and groom before the wedding.  I was hoping the samething for my wedding, so I don’t have to worry about the gifts the day of.

    Post # 5
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    2603 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’ve never heard of a gift-opening party, but I can get the gist of what it is. 

    In all honesty, there are *very* few people for whom I’d attend a gift-opening party–like, maybe my family. It’s not meant to be mean, it’s just that I think I’d be wedding-d out by the time that came around and watching the bride open her gifts is sort of not my idea of fun, especially when I’m likely to be tired and a wee bit hungover. The idea does seem great if guests were giving you as heartfelt and personal gifts as you gave your sister, but these days with gift registries, I imagine that the majority aren’t really all that personal about their gift–they’re probably going mostly on price and convenience (sorry). 

    But maybe if it was more of a custom in my area I might feel differently?

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We did It. We had a lot of out of town guests that we wanted to spend some more time with and wanted a reason to invite whoever over. We just hung out around the pool and had food available and if people wanted to watch us open They could and if they wanted to swim or play volleyball or horseshoes that was cool too. 

    Post # 7
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Voted no cause I didn’t have one, but I think that if you want to then you totally should do it.

    Post # 8
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I would imagine you’d be exhausted and not too eager to crawl out of bed. I wouldn’t even consider it. 

    Post # 9
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    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We went back to our inlaws after the our reception was over, was my Mother-In-Law, Father-In-Law, BIL, SIL and nephew/neice. Hubby opened the gifts, I opened the cards and all was well. I wrote the list of who gave what so that while we were gone on our two week honeymoon I could write the thank you notes.

    After we did that, we then left and went to our hotel for the night. We were leaving the next day at noon to drive to Tennessee with BIL and SIL so no way could we wait and open all that morning.

    Post # 10
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    Totally have one if you want to!  We’re not – I’m not a fan of opening gifts in front of people in general – even at Christmas I find it awkward.  I hate people staring at me… ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 11
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    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I loved the calm after the wedding when my husband and I got to sit Donna lone and open everything together. Honestly, it was so personal and special, and it was a great way to spend some of our first hours alone together as husband and wife. It was sowonderful too to beinstantly struck by people’s generosity and to enjoy that in private.  I’ve never heard of this gift opening thing, but I would not want to host one or go to one, and I’d find it contrary to etiquette (my own standards; do as you like) to invite people to one because that invitation would be an overta reference to expectation of gifts.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @MrsHoneyC:  Why not just have abrunch or lunch with those people? Why do the gifts need to be involved?

    Post # 14
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    2603 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You could…

     

    The tradition I’m aware of is a simple morning-after brunch. But that doesn’t carry the expectation of watching the couple open gifts! I’d say that I like a PP suggestion of having alternatives for people to do besides the gift opening. 

    I dunno, though, like brenda.m.fields, I’m kind of wary of the idea. Again, if it’s a custom, then it’s a custom and your crowd would be used to it. To a foreigner, it seems a bit like “hey, look at my loot!” or worse, like you could be the poor guest who could only afford a melon baller and yours is opened after the person that bought the KitchenAid…yikes. That’s just my gut reaction–like I said, it’s your peeps and your event, so take what a stranger on the Internet has to say with a grain of salt!!

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We opened our gifts at my parents’ house the day after we got back from our honeymoon.  So, 10 ish days after the wedding.  Only immediate family was present – My parents, Bro & SIL & nieces, Bro & SIL… and DH’s parents, BIL & Sis.  It worked great for us – We were able to see all of our family again, we ate leftover cake (totally still good!) and just enjoyed the moment ๐Ÿ™‚

    ETA: My Bro1 &SIL got married on a Saturday, went out for brunch with family (at Denny’s!) on the Monday or Tuesday.  Then, they came back to my parents house to open gifts with immediate family.

    My Bro2 & SIL got married on a Friday, came to a dinner at church on Sunday that was their 2nd reception (because they had limited space at their wedding venue, but my dad is a pastor.  So, the whole congregation would have wanted to go.  So, they opted to just invite close friends from church and then hold a 2nd reception).  Then, after the reception, opened gifts at our house with immediate family.

    So, what we did lined up pretty well with what my brothers did, we just did it a week later than they did ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @MrsHoneyC:  If you want one, have one!  My sister did at her MIL’s home.  I think it would be nice.

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