Post # 1
So we are debating about having a gift opening the day after the wedding. I know that my cousin did one years ago, but I’ve had 2 friends get married since and they never. I’m not sure it’s still a “thing”?
We do have many out of town guests (family) so I know it would be nice to see them. Just feel awkward opening gifts in front of others- and I’m probably going to be exhausted the day after the wedding.
Opinions are much appreciated!!!
Post # 2
I’d never open gifts in front of guests. Your parents are ok. Due to guests , we didn’t open any gifts until a few days after the wedding. Then, we opened a few a day
Post # 3
I’ve never been to a gift opening after a wedding, I don’t think it’s a thing. Plus feels tacky to me. What happens if some couldn’t give a more expensive gift, wouldn’t they feel embarrassed to be compared to all the other gifts in front of everyone? What about people who gave money? Would you also open it in front of everyone and declare how much is in each envelope? I just can’t see it working.
Post # 4
No, skip it. I understand it used to be done in some circles, but sounds horrible to me. A shower is different, the people you’re opening gifts in front of are the people who brought the gifts and it was a party specifically centered on gifts. A gift opening with select participants who may or may not have brought a gift, not cool.
Post # 5
Nay. I know people did this years ago, I never went to one though. I haven’t heard of anyone doing one for many years now at the weddings I’ve attended. I think they’re just awkward and unnecessary.
Post # 6
The day after my wedding, I’m not getting out of bed unless it’s to eat, go to the toilet or bang standing up. The idea of summoning the energy to host AGAIN – ugh. No way.
Post # 7
I’ve never heard of this and wouldn’t attend.
Post # 8
Wow that sounds awful, I had no idea it was a thing. I would open presents with our parents and grandparents, no one else.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2019 - UK
Sounds a bit and uncomfortable to me.
We will probable organize a brunch or lunch for the people from out of town who are still staying an extra day after the wedding (just in a restaurant, people pay for there own food and drinks). A few years ago we went to a wedding and the day after all the people from out of town went to their house and had a BBQ, it was really nice to just catch up without it being a wedding event everyone was much more relaxed. Another wedding we went to the beach the day after (it was in a beach town) which was also really nice.
So I suggest if you wish to do something with the people how came from far make it something low key and relaxing. Make sure you can sleep in, you have nothing to organize (like the BBQ was done by a catering company) and you can just relax and enjoy the company of these people. Don’t make it an extension of your wedding.
Post # 10
My brother and SIL did this with just immediate family (it was a whole brunch) and it’s done a lot in my hometown area, but we will not be doing one. We just don’t have the space to host one and my parents don’t live here, and we all have to check out of the hotel, so we are just not doing it. We will probably take my parents out to breakfast or something, but we just can’t imagine having the energy to get that done!
Post # 12
Plan a brunch if you want to visit with people the next day. People give gifts at different levels and opening them for comparison in front of a group of people can be cringe-worthy and uncomfortable.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
There are better ways to spend time with your out of town guests, like a lovely brunch the next morning. I would not want to attend a gift opening event on the morning after a wedding, nor would I have wanted to do that as a bride. Assuming you’ll have already had a bridal shower, there’s really no need to do it again.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Never knew this was a thing. I wouldn’t host one of these, nor would I attend one as a guest. Seems too easy to make guests uncomfortable about what they were or were not able to give.
Post # 15
Not a thing, though years ago in some circles you used to hear of gift display tables. Not that this was very polite, either.
A shower is about presents and involves intimate friends and family giving modest and practical gifts. Opening wedding gifts publicly is not the same thing at all and would be very inappropriate. I didn’t even allow my children to open birthday presents in front of everyone.