Post # 1
I have an acquaintance thats getting married at a Destination Wedding in a couple of months and is having an at-home reception for their friends a month after that. the at-home reception is a potluck reception. do I bring a gift to the reception? i’m confused on etiquette with this one since i’ve never been invited to a potluck wedding reception before. their registry is kind of expensive so i can’t afford anything from it, so if i do need to bring a gift it would have to be something like a $25 gift card.
Post # 3
@auroraborealis: …they’re hosting a potluck reception and didn’t use the “in lieu of a gift, bring a dish” line? Seems a bit grabby to me. Any potluck invite I’ve ever seen made it clear that the dish was standing in place of a traditional present. I’d just bring the dish and a card.
Post # 4
lol, I think the potluck dish covers the “cover your plate” rule in this case 😉
Post # 5
Are they asking guests (e.g., you) to bring a dish, or just that their family will provide the potluck items? If it’s the first option, I agree with PP – that covers your ‘gift’. If it’s the latter, I think it seems kinda gift grabby also, but would say you are fine with your idea for a gift, IF you choose to give one. You mention this is an acquaintenace. Were you invited to the Destination Wedding also, or just the reception (which I understand might be common in the UK, but seems gift-grabby to me here in the states) … kinda like, you weren’t close enough to witness my marriage, but heck yea, you can bring me a gift!
Post # 6
Since it is pot-luck and a post-wedding reception, I don’t think you are obligated to bring a present. If you would like to do a gift card and a note, that would be nice but not strictly necessary.
Post # 7
I would say if possible bring a small gift but, on the other hand, if it’s a Destination Wedding then maybe your gift is simply your presence.
Post # 8
Do you want to give a gift?
I think gifts should be given based on your closeness to the couple, your finances, and your feelings about gift-giving, not the type of event that is being hosted.
Post # 9
I would just bring the potluck dish and a card. The dish usually stands in for a gift in a potluck situation.
Post # 10
I usually agree with jdhall89: , but in this case I think your gift is bringing the food to cater her post-wedding party.
Post # 11
That seems really odd to have a potluck AND a very expensive registry. Assuming you’re bringing a nice dish, that should be sufficient. If you’re really inspired, you can certainly give a card too, but it’s not required.
Post # 12
@auroraborealis: If you bring a dish, that IS your gift.
Though personally, I find a pot luck reception in poor taste. The reception is a thank you to your guests for coming out to celebrate, and I don’t see you hosting yourself as particularly thankful.
I would probably not attend this event unless it was my best friend, certainly not for an acquaintance.