(Closed) Gift or No Gift? That is the question!

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Gift or No Gift (for Encore couples)? Please read below before voting. Thanks!
    Gift : (15 votes)
    54 %
    Card : (11 votes)
    39 %
    Other - please share your suggestion : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Other - please share your suggestion : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Although I don’t agree with the fact that they didn’t get you a gift, I would say you should give them a gift (if you’re invited to the wedding).

    Post # 4
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    47440 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Are you invited to their weddings?

    I would send a card wishing them both well.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    3324 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think that it depends.  Etiquette will tell you that you are never required to give a gift.  I would send either a card or a gift depending on my closeness with the couple.

     

    Post # 7
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    2599 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would send them a gift if I was invited, whether or not they gave me one, and whether or not this is their first wedding or not.

    The value of that gift would probably vary –  I likely would gift a little less if they didn’t give me a gift, but being an encore bride myself I wouldn’t alter my gift to them because of that.

    Good luck!

    Post # 9
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    2599 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @melisslp:  I totally understand! (I can still tell you the 3 couples names that didn’t bring us a gift at my first wedding, and the couple that no showed!)…

    That’s why I sort of disclaimered it with the value may change.

    And there’s a little sliver of me that would enjoy being the ‘bigger’ person but secretly hope me sending them a gift would make them realize how sucky it was that they didn’t for you.

    Good luck 🙂

    Post # 11
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    5493 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    If you are planning on attending their wedding then you have to bring a gift.  It’s rude to go to a wedding empty handed.

    Post # 14
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    5493 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

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    @melisslp:  oh I totally wasnt imply that you would do something like that.  I’m just saying, that as rude as the other couple was to not show up, it’s equally rude to not bring a gift to a wedding.  It’s hard to be the bigger person but I think in this situation, you really have to be.

    Post # 16
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    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Wow, this is hard. At 200 dollars a head for my wedding if someone RSVP’d and didnt show up I would have a REALLY hard time buying them a gift. I say a card is MORE than enough. Or buy them something really cheap if you must. (not something that looks like you tried to buy them crap but just something generically okay) For the other couple, I would bring a gift. They may not of gotten you a gift or a card but they probably thought that just saying no to the wedding was enough.

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