Post # 17
I appreciate your thoughts….which, are very similar to mine on this! I’m probably going to end up giving the “no” replying couple a larger gift and the “yes” couple a smaller gift. Thanks again!!
Post # 18
If I was an encore bride, I wouldn’t expect gifts at all. However, I also wouldn’t show up empty handed (unless I attended his/her first wedding). I would probably do a gift in the $50 range. And grrrrr about the no-show couple.
Post # 19
I would get them a nice bottle of wine or something like that.
Base your decision on what you feel is right not considering how they treated you…..treat others how you wish to be treated, right?
Post # 20
That is simply untrue. It is actually incorrect to show up with a gift to the event itself. It should be mailed to the bride ahead of the event. And a gift is never required. It is nice, and I think that if you accept the invitiation that you should bring a gift. But I am not incorrect to not bring one.
Post # 21
I would say a card and a small gift (whether that be gift card-$25 or bottle of wine). They likely aren’t loosing sleep over not getting you a gift, so don’t worry about it too much! 🙂
Post # 22
A small something sent to the couple would be nice. I wouldn’t spend too much on it, but a nice token gift would do the trick.
Post # 23
I wouldn’t expect a gift either if I were an Encore bride. Both ladies are 50ish and are very established women. I can’t imagine what they would need, so that is why I’m leaning towards a small gift of some sort.
I like the bottle of wine idea! I do agree with the statement you made about treating others how you’d expect to be treated. I suppose that is why I was a little disappointed in the “yes” couple not showing…especially since I worked with her for almost 6 years and never received a form of congratulations. Ho hum…
Thank you for your thoughts. I read a bit about wedding/gift etiquette and it’s true that you shouldn’t be expected to bring a gift…and for Encore weddings it’s a totally different scenario. I will end up getting each couple a gift of some sort.
Boy, you are so right! Why do I worry so much about things that other people probably don’t even have a second thought about? Thanks for giving me a new perspective!
I like the idea of a “token” gift! Thanks!!