MemberOk so my fiance and I are getting married June 16. His brother in Japan is already married but having a ceremony here when he comes home for our wedding and his other brother in Bahrain is getting married June 24 while he’s here also. So my question is do we buy gifts for each other? We’re busy spending our money on our wedding and honeymoon and we don’t have a lot…
MemberPersonally I’ve never understood the need for bride/groom to swap gifts (if that’s what you’re referring to) I feel like the bride getting all dolled up in a dress, and the groom in his suit are gift enough for each other! Don’t sweat the unnecessary stuff
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MemberPersonally I would feel extremely uncomfortable going to someones wedding or wedding ceremony and not buying them a gift even if they are a family member. I would also feel weird about not getting a sibling a gift if they got married and I was unable to attend. Unless of course you all agree not to get eachother anything seeing as you all have a lot of expences relating to your own weddings. What does your fiance think you guys should do?
MemberMemberI would really take your FI’s lead on this one though because it is his family and he probably knows what they might be expecting, but if he’s saying he doesnt know that makes things difficult for you!! It might be an idea to get him to chat with his brothers and suggest that you dont do gifts for eachother, that way everyone knows what to expect. 
MemberMemberWell, just trading stuff around with each other is essentially what gift giving is, isn’t it? By your logic, no one would give gifts ever because eventually it’ll just come back around where it needs to be reciprocated and so let’s just not bother at all? I mean, at Christmas or on birthdays, do you not give gifts to your friends and family because they’d also need to give a gift either at Christmas or when your birthday rolls around and you’d just be trading stuff around? Gift giving isn’t about “trading” to get ahead. You give gifts as a heartfelt token in celebration.
The date of your wedding is irrelevant as to whether it appropriate to get them a gift. If their weddings weren’t within the same 10 day span as yours – they are 6 or 12 months down the road, for example, would you be getting them gifts? If the answer is yes, then you should get them a gift because the timeframe is irrelevant. If the answer is no, then it is still no as to whether you should get them one for what is actually planned now.
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