- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
First, some back story.
I am marrying my Turkish fiancee and we will live in Istanbul. I am from Louisiana. Here is my dilenma. In the US, most people live outside of their parents home and own furniture, dishes, small appliances, etc. and when they get married (in my eyes anyhow), they merge these things and don’t necessarily go out and buy all brand new things as soon as they get married but slowly as they can afford it or as they find things they are in love with.
In Turkey this is very different. Most children live with their parents until marriage and the brides parents and grooms parents set up house for the newly weds buying everything from furniture (living room, bedroom, dining, salon, etc.) to towels, all of your dishes, small and big appliances including refridgerator, dishwasher, washing machine, tv, etc. Everything you would need to start your new life together.
My fiancee and I have been living in different countries for most of our relationship due to his job so we sold everything we owned and purchased things to supplement our furnished apartments and later left those items for the final move back to Istanbul. Now, again, we are living in a completely furnished temporary apartment until we get married and find some place to buy.
Okay so we own nothing and need everything. His parents are going to provide us with the items that the grooms side typically provide and my family is supposed to provide the brides side. Problem is, this is not the American way. My family has always been very generous to me, above and beyond what most but to have them completely furnish a home seems ridiculous to me so I am trying to save as much as I can so they do not have to spend so much. What I am finding out is the same exact Dyson vacuum I would want in the US is $399, in Turkey in US dollars is $905 so quite expensive. Everything seems to be on par with similar pricing, furniture, china, etc.
My dad is a manufaturer of fitness equipment in the US and brings in about 20 containers a year from China so we are thinking to possibly get a container to bring over household goods from the US including all of our furniture and wedding gifts minus any electrical appliances. I am hoping if we are able to save his parents a good deal of money with the same quality of furniture that they will help contribute to other things we need.
So after all my long winded-ness (sorry!), here is my question, I don’t want to ask for money but I think that my family and our friends throughout would love the opportunity to contribute in some way to items that cannot be purchased in the US. I do not want to ask for money straight out but essentially that is what it would be. Is there some type of website though that people can contribute money towards a particular type of thing simliar to that of a honeymoon registry where people contribute to experiences? For example, if I want a vacuum cleaner, a kitchen aid mixer and a blender, is there a website where I can fill in all the pertinent information about the item and people contribute money, not pay for the whole thing because its expensive, but give some small amount to help cover these items and know that the money was going towards paying for these things?
Thank you for taking the time to read through all of this!!