Post # 1
Sorry for the repost but I accidently posted it under grooms men…i know…dang newbies!
So We are having a Destination Wedding in DR and I don’t know if it is appropriate to have a gift registry since everyone is already paying alot of $$ to travel with us. What do we do??
Post # 3
I was wondering the same thing. We are planning on booking our Destination Wedding next month and I already said I don’t want to registry because that’s asking a lot…travel AND get us gifts? I think people in our families would be pissed.
Post # 4
I think it’s still appropriate to register, just don’t put the information in your invitations. You will more than likely have people ask where you’re registered, and then you tell them.
I wouldn’t be pissed by any means – if they want to give you a gift, there is a registry to help them with ideas of what to buy. If they don’t want to get you a gift, they won’t ask where you’re registered.
Also, if you plan to have a shower, you’ll need to register somewhere for those gifts.
Post # 5
We did a registry even though we had a Destination Wedding. However, the registry was more for the bridal shower and people who could not attend the wedding. We didn’t expect anyone attending to give us a gift.
Post # 6
we didnt do a registry, I figure, if people want to get us something (the ones who arent comming) then they will ask us what we want, and we will just tell them. But we also dont want any “stuff” I just told our parents, if people ask, tell them we would like money. 🙂 I am not expecting anything from anyone though. My cousin is doing a destination wedding, and her registry is for donations to a charity that they picked. I like that idea too!
Post # 7
You all make very good points…I think we will do one just in case and not include it w/ the invotes as u suggested. We may do a reception when we get back with people that couldn’t attend(budget willing!) so we may need it for that. I just don’t want people to think we’re being greedy because I feel bad enough now that they are forking over all this $$ to travel too!
Post # 8
We had a semi-destination wedding (required at least one hotel night for most guests). We tried to discourage gifts because we are older/established (and therefore didn’t need much in the way of household items), and we knew we were asking a lot of our friends and family to travel to attend.
To address this, we created a page on our website entitled, “In Lieu of Gifts.” On it, we listed two charities that were meaningful to us/our families, and requested donations in lieu of wedding gifts.
But I did have some friends who strongly encouraged me to register because they were going to get me gifts regardless. So, below the charity links, we included a statement along the lines of, “Our life experiences have taught us to value experiences over things. Your presence at our wedding is all the ‘gift’ we need, but for those who are compelled to honor us with a gift, we have set up a honeymoon registry at <link>.”
The point is, you will have some guests who will want/insist on giving you a gift, and you should make it easy for them to feel good about what they get you. Just keep it low-key and you’ll be fine!
Post # 9
I’m having a semi-DW too where it would be crazy to drive home after the reception. On our wedding website I wrote that my guests’ presence is a gift to us already, but for those that insist on getting us a tangible item, them follow this link. Also, my Maid/Matron of Honor convinced me to have a bridal shower. I didn’t want to at first, but I think she wanted to throw me a party.
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We did like SuperKate and did one for the showers and our second reception. We also sent out little packages to each guest before the wedding which included information about the wedding, area, etc. We also put in there that we did not expect anyone to bring gifts. =)
Post # 11
We registered at two placed. Honeyfund (for tours and activities for our Destination Wedding and honeymoon and Bed Bath & Beyond). The registries are for formalities sake and we wrote on them “A gift is not expected or required, having you there the day of our wedding is more than gift enough. Anything else is just above and beyond~”