Post # 1
We got engaged 7 months ago. We received a few cards and one gift card right afterwards. Yesterday I went home from work to find a box from Target had arrive. We both thought it was something the other person had ordered. We opened it and there was a note that said congratualtions on your engagement, we are so happy for you, etc. It was the 8-pc set of pots and pans we had put on our registry. It is from a Bridesmaid or Best Man and her new hubby (who had already sent us a card after we got engaged).
Anyways, my question is, I have read that you are supposed to not use wedding gifts or shower gifts until after the wedding. My mom said she thinks it’s "an old wives tale". I’m not sure. So can we use them or not?
By The Way, FH wants to use them because we are getting a new stove next week and my old pots are not the best, nor do we have many.
Post # 3
I used gifts we got before the wedding as long as I had sent out the thank you card. It was a way to make sure I got them done in a timely manner.
Go ahead and enjoy them!
Post # 4
Go ahead — consider it an engagement gift, not a wedding present per se. What a fantastic friend! Send a prompt thank you!
Post # 5
I have actually read that it is ok to use wedding gifts before the wedding as long as you send out a thank you note right away. Add a detail about what meal you last cooked the pots and pans with so they know the gift is being put to good use.
Post # 6
I think its ok to use gifts in advance, but since they specifically said ‘congratulations on your engagement,’ it must be an engagement gift. I would definately use them with your new stove!
Post # 7
I would go ahead and use it! Just send the thank you card first and you are set to cook!