Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!
Hi all! Long time no here. Anywho
Under what circumstances should you be sending a gift with a RSVP of ‘no’?
If you’re invited to a baby shower and haven’t spoken to the people in years, RSVP no, should you be sending a gift? A card? Nothing?
If it’s someone you love dearly and just can’t make it? A random coworker? Etc.
What’s the norm?
Post # 2
You don’t have to give anything. A card is nice if you are close to the person
Post # 3
Under this circumstance I probably wouldn’t send a gift.
I RSVP “no” to a ton of showers for people that I would consider acquaintances due to living in a different state. In those cases, I would send a gift because I would attend if I lived closer. In the case of not speaking to someone for years I *might* send a card but probably not a present.
Post # 4
I always send a gift when I decline an invitation, but I haven’t been invited to showers/other events for people I wasn’t close to.
Just as an invitation is not a summons, an invitation does not demand a gift. It’s up to the recipient if they wish to send a gift.
Post # 5
HoorayLouLou: I think it’s a play by play. If i am declining because i’m not even sure why i was invited, or its an obligatiry invite from a distant cousin or something then i wouldnt send a gift. If it was a friend or family member where i am genuinely regretful that i cant attend, i would send a token gift, probably not as expensive as if i were attending. Anyone super close i would try my best to attend and havent turned down yet, but if i had to i would send them the same gift i would have brought with me to the event.
Post # 6
I give something if I want to send a token of goodwill and good luck to the couple, irrespective of whether or not I’m attending.
Last time I got a baby shower invite like that I sent them a small thing from their registry ($30-ish) to say “Oh, that’s great! Congrats! Hope it goes great for you.” (As opposed to “OH MY GOSH OH MY GOSH IM SO EXCITED FOR YOU AHH I CANT WAIT TO MEET THE LITTLE ONE.” and the couple are so close to me that I knew they were pregnant WAY before the 3 month mark… which translates to a $100+ gift lol. Then there are levels in between, of course. :P)
Post # 7
I only give gifts to people I’m close with. – If it was a childhood friend I have been out of touch with but still have a lot of good feelings for -I’ll send them something mid priced and shipped from their registry.
A co worker– only if its someone I interact with and want to give them something useful but not spendy from their registry.
If its a best friend or family member- i’ll probably be the one throwing the shower and making sure there are a million beautiful cupcakes and balloons and ribbons lol