(Closed) "Gifting" my TTC resources to SIL?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Weird to give SIL (who announced she is TTC) TCOYF, OPKs, and Pre-seed that I don't need anymore?
    Yes, too weird. Let her figure out the daunting world of TTC on her own. : (12 votes)
    14 %
    No, if it were me, I would appreciate the extra resources. : (60 votes)
    68 %
    Maybe, explanation below. : (16 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I feel like the books are ok to gift & would be really appreciated but OPK’s & pre-seed are a little too personal IMO.

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldn’t just gift it to her, but I’d talk to her, mention everything I have and ask her if she wanted any of it. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would def ask her if she wants it! That’s stuff is expensive! And I would have been thrilled to get it from someone, personally!

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    As somone who tried for 19 cycles… that shit adds up.  I wouldn’t just blind side her with it, but I’d ask if she uses any of it, and be clear that the pre-seed is unopened.

     

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would like to pre-meditate my post by saying regardless of if you give to her or not, its a super nice gesture aand think she will perceive it in nothing but the nicest way possible.  

    Barring that, I guess it would depend on her approach to TTC.  If she’s the type to take more of a laid back approach or if she’s really into getting to know her body and to maximize her fertility each month.  I personally plan to pass on my knowledge (and OPKs/CBEFM) to my best friend who’s looking to TTC in a few months (but maybe that’s different than a SIL – hmmm).  If I hadn’t been stalking the bee forums I would have no clue of the resources available for a couple that is TTC.   

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    After I got my bfp, I asked my friend who was ttc if she wanted my big batch of opk’s. she was thrilled and ended up getting her bfp the next month after using them. She claims they were lucky because they were from me ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    That is nicest thing you could do for her. I’m sure she would appreciate it!

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @cowgirlace:  It is all how you approach it– I would pull her aside and say “Katie, I remember you mentioned that you and Tom were trying to get pregnant. I know how expensive some of the pre-pregnancy resources can be. If you would like, I have extra ovulation detectors and pre-seed and a whole bunch of other stuff. If not, that is totally fine, but I just don’t want it to go to waste”

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think a major factor is that she announced she was TTC.  I agree with the bee who mentioned having a discussion before gifting is a good idea.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

    The preseed might be a little too much, but the book and OPKs are great!

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’d appreciate all of it of I were her! That stuff is expensive!

    Post # 14
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would casually slip it into conversation somewhere… “Hey, just so you know, I have a bunch of (X, Y, &Z) If you want any of it, it’s yours!”

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think since you are all family now, help a girl out! It can be overwhelming to try to figure all this stuff out and since you two have a good relationship I’d offer away!

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s very sweet of you to want to help her! ๐Ÿ™‚ Like some of the PP’s stated, I think you should talk with her and let her know what you have and that she welcomed to have any of it. Hope it all works out! ๐Ÿ™‚

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