(Closed) Gifting when NOT attending wedding or shower

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would just send one gift.  I wouldn’t do one for the shower and wedding if you aren’t attending.

Post # 4
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would not, but some very generous people do.

Post # 5
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

When I can’t attend a shower, I usually send a gift.  BUT.. if you also can’t attend the wedding, I think one gift is more than enough.

Post # 6
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would just send one gift.  I honestly didn’t expect a gift from anyone who didn’t attend wedding or shower. 

Post # 7
1774 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was taught that if you are invited to the wedding, you send a gift whether you attend or not.  For showers, you don’t have to send a gift if you don’t attend.  That’s what I do, except in rare cases (I have another thread about someone I barely know inviting me to the wedding, I don’t think I am going or sending a gift) or for showers where I am close to the person but unable to make it.

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