(Closed) Gifts

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Aside from the BMs and Groomsmen, we are also getting gifts for our readers, the ushers, our officiant, and our program/guest book attendants. 

My parents told us flat out to NOT buy them a gift.  They are paying for a portion of the wedding and so are we.  They know money is tight for us with the wedding/honeymoon, so we are not getting them a gift.  FI’s parents (I’m in the same boat as you) will also NOT be receiving a present.  It wasn’t until I had to have a serious talk with Fiance about 2months ago that his paretns HAD to pay for something because I was about 5 feet from the poor house.  So they finally bucked up for our shuttle bus. So, no, I don’t think you need to buy them one.

Everyone is getting personalized cards though with photos of us.  For example, I’m making photo cards for all BMs with photos of that woman and me throughout the years.  I’m also doing the same for my brother who is a groomsman, my parents and I will whip one up for his parents.

Post # 4
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

you are supposed to get parents gifts I dont know about the others because we have no Wedding Party

Post # 5
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think different people do different things. I would get readers and ushers a small gift and a thank you card. If you do buy your parents gifts, I would buy his parents present too. Take the higher road, and maybe she’ll be a little nicer to you.

Post # 6
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I bought my parents a gift but did not buy a gift for the inlaws as they did not contribute to the wedding.  I plan to give the gift to my parents privately the morning of the wedding. I don’t want to give the gift publicly in front of my inlaws because I wouldn’t wanted them to feel slighted that I didn’t get them anything. 

Post # 7
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

In addition to the wedding party we purchased gifts for both sets of parents. They were similar in style and essentially the same price. My parents paid for the wedding and his paid for the rehearsal dinner. If you really don’t want to get your soon-to-be inlaws a gift then definitely give your parents their gift privately.

We also purchased small gifts for the ushers, house party, reader, and pastor. My parents tipped him as well but we wanted to give a small gift from us.

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