Post # 1
Too many weddings happening lately, Need some ettiqute help:
What do you give to people who don’t register?
Do you have to give a gift if you don’t attend the wedding?
How much do YOU spend on your wedding gifts (when you go alone, or w/ a date, or if you don’t go).
Post # 3
B) If you were invited and can’t attend, I would send a gift. Maybe a smaller one that if I did attend ($50ish), but yes, I would send something.
C) the amount I spend depends on the relationship with the person. Normally around $75-100 for friends, $200 for close friends and close family.
Post # 4
If you don’t attend I agree with sending a small gift or giftcard (25-100 dollars depending on what you can afford and your relationship to the couple).
If you do attend I’ve been told you are supposed to "cover your meal expense." Personally, I would give what you can afford to give. If you’re in school/young 25-50 per person attending, if you’re a little more established and have the funds 50-100 per person attending.
Remember, a gift is a gift- and it’s the thought, not amount.
Post # 5
A) Obviously what they are asking for: cold hard cash.
B) Etiquette says yes
C) $50 for friends; $75-$100 for closer friends (but you really need to look at your income when making this decision). If you come up with a really cute, clever, or handmade gift, you can get away with spending less.
I disagree with the "cover your meal" point of view. To know this information, you would need to ask what they are spending, and a guess will always be too low. If we adopted this policy then a bride and groom might as well charge at the door. The rule is to give what you can afford.
Post # 6
I don’t like giving money as a gift unless it needs to be…
but asking for money sounds kinda rude, is it bad to not register? i havent registered since I have no idea what i need/want and live in a TINY apartment and will still be here after getting married for at least 2.5 months.
Post # 7
You should register. If you don’t you’ll get a lot of stuff you may not need or want, or you may get five of one item. If you register, then, at least you may get some of the stuff you want. And for people that aren’t going to buy off your registry, at least they get an idea of your style and hopefully buy a gift along the same lines.
If you’re young and haven’t established a household yet, check out the many lists out there that give you an idea of basic kitchen, bath and home things you will need. If you’re established and already have a lot of stuff, look at those lists and figure out what you have, what you will never need and what yu might want.
Post # 8
1) If I’m close, I’ll call and ask them what they want (though this could backfire if they tell you something out of your price range). I’ve never had this happen though. If I’m not close, I’ll get them nice wine glasses and include a gift receipt. I don’t usually like giving money.
2) Yes. I feel bad if I don’t. It’s usually smaller than what I would give if I went to the wedding, however, this summer I can’t go to a wedding that would cost $1000 in travel, so I’m using what I’ve saved to spend a little more. Probably Too Much Information…sorry!
3) It depends how close I am to the couple (I’ve given anywhere from $50-500). Check out this thread for some ideas — people have very strong opinions on this topic!