Post # 1
Who should we be buying gifts for?? I have already purchased most of the bridesmaid gifts, and I’m having my FH think about what he wants to get his groomsmen, and I am currently researching parent’s gifts.
However, I am seeing more and more things people are buying for the flower girl, the ring bearer, out of town guests and so on…. what is the etiquette???
Post # 3
I think the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and parents are musts… It’s nice to get something cute for the ring bearer and flower girl, but I wouldn’t go too crazy. I haven’t seen anyone getting gifts for out-of-towners… except maybe welcome bags for the hotel guests.
Post # 4
@super_stressed_bride: I would just stick to bridesmaids, MOHs, groomsmen and best men. As far as ring bearers and flower girls go, maybe just something tiny without really spending much money. I am not having flower girls or ring bearers. I am giving my junior bridesmaid (she’s FI’s sister and will have just turned 12 right before the wedding) a very special necklace that I received as a gift when I turned 12. (I no longer wear the necklace, as it’s more appropriate for a younger girl). The only money I’ll be spending will be to get it cleaned, so maybe $10-$15 max.
Post # 5
@super_stressed_bride: I think you got the important ones. But maybe something small for anyone “in” the wedding: ushers, readers, person in charge of the guestbook, etc. We’re also doing the officiants and ceremony musician because we’re using friendors who aren’t charging for their services. Basically anyone who has had a significant role in putting the wedding together. That’s the point of the gifts. To thank people for helping you with putting together an/or executing the wedding.
Post # 6
we didn’t do welcome bags or anything for our out of town guests. and whenever i’ve been an out of town guest, i’ve never received (or expected) anything either, so i wouldn’t worry about that.
we didn’t have a ring bearer, but we did have a flower girl. we gave her a pearl necklace and a tiara (plus a tote bag and a survival kit, which i gave to my bridesmaids also). i wouldn’t spend a ton of money on gifts for the kids.