Post # 1
Hello I am getting married next year in the spring. I have 6 bridesmaid including my 1 maid of honour. I saw many ideas especially on pin interest for will you be my bridesmaids popping the question. My bridesmaids all have already been asking without a card or gifts cause I didn’t want to put pressure on them to say yes. I believe this is common?
However now they are said yes I we are all getting together and I am planning ton make them each a card and I love the idea of a nice gift box with things such as bridesmaid survival kit, nail polish to show colour scheme, ring pop, tick tacks, nice notebook and pen are some examples. Also my favourine that I saw was including the robe/romper in the will u be my bridesmaids box. I found some really cute rompers are these a good alternative to robes? Should my maid of honour have a different colour or shade? Lastly should these be given as part of a thank u gift instead of asking will u be bridemaid gift? I was reading that it’s not great to give as a thank u cause it’s what u want them to wear but then again I was thinking of giving a large fancy necklace as a thank u I want them to all have a big matching necklace should this not be given as a thank you?
Post # 2
I personally wouldn’t have any problem as a Bridesmaid or Best Man receiving a gift of jewelry that was also to be worn during the ceremony (and have actually received that as a gift a few times), but generally people will tell you that the Bridesmaid or Best Man gift should not be something that is part of the ceremony look or for a photo prop – because then the gift is really more for yourself and your wedding than it is for that individual Bridesmaid or Best Man. Things that are wedding-related, and especially things that have “bridesmaid” written on them, aren’t really favored as Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.
I think the best way to go about buying Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts is to buy something for each girl that you could just as easily give her for her birthday. Something she’ll really like.
As far as robes/rompers – would those be for getting ready pics? Because there was a thread awhile back where someone was considering rompers for the BM’s and I think 90% of the responses said they’d be horrified to wear a romper for professional getting ready pics. 😄
Post # 3
I would find it difficult to waste a bunch of money giving what amounts to junk or useless gifts to the bridesmaids. A ring pop, tic tacs, notebook and pen, are all things they likely already own, don’t want or don’t need.
Why not just write them out a lovely card telling them why you are grateful to have them in your life and asking them to be a bridesmaid? Or simply ask them in person?
Count me in the camp that believes that if it’s a prop for your pictures, it’s not a gift.
Post # 4
In my box, I put in a nail polish, picture of us, couple sheet masks, and eyelashes.
Im thinking maybe give them a cute perfume as thank you gift. It’s not personalized though.
Post # 5
Thank u for the suggestions. So then is the robe/rompre acceptable for the will u be my bridemaid gift if not for thank you?
Also where is the post regarding rompre? I’d be curious to see. I was so excited about them
Post # 6
oh I would choose one of those candies to just add to rompre and a nail polish for example.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
Like others have said, most people don’t constitute things used in preparation and for the wedding as gifts. I didn’t have a bridal party so I didn’t do gifts, but I was just a matron of honor in my friend’s wedding and she gifted us a nice sized tote bag with our first initial embroidered on it, and inside was a tank top in her wedding color with our titles (Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid) and flip flops to change into later on in the evening. I thought it was a sweet gesture and have no complaints, but I would consider all of those things as part of the “wedding uniform” because we took pictures in our tank tops and flip flops and with the tote bags.
I wouldn’t have wanted jewelry because I’m particular about what I wear, and I also wouldn’t have wanted my friend to spend an arm and a leg on us. I like when brides choose things that the bridesmaids can use again or things that are customized to each girl’s taste, like their favorite candy and a gift card to one of their favorite stores or spas. Even if it’s just $25, it’s still thoughtful.