Post # 1
My Fiance is from Canada and I am from the US. Our wedding will be in the US 🙂
My current dilemma is how to appropriately/kindly word/mention it on our blog that we can only have monontary gifts (or certain gift cards). I feel badly, but do not want to be carrying it 3,000 plus miles in my suitcase (we’re flying) and end up paying duty fees!
We have a guest list of 350 and if even half of them bring gifts, that’s a lot to take across the border! I’m also moving all my belongings to Canada, and doubt that there will be any suitcase room leftover!
Post # 2
Just don’t create any registries. People will get the hint. If they ask, explain that situation and I’m sure they would understand. If you do get gifts (because some people will probably still give you a physical gift) see if you can return the item or maybe give it to a family member or friend who’d like it?
Post # 3
Also, to add, you should never ask for a gift…monetary or not. Just leave it at no registry. Some people will give you a check or cash, some will give you nothing, some might still give you a physical gift of their choosing. But it’s their prerogative not yours.
Post # 4
In my experience, registries send gifts to your house. There may be a way to just specify to not bring physical gifts to the actual wedding unless they are monetary? Or send gifts in advance?
Post # 5
There is no polite way. Honestly, you’ll piss off more people than you’ll guide by putting a cute poem or note on your invitation or website. Don’t register. Tell gossipy family members that you really don’t want any boxed presents.
Post # 6
Anytime I travel for a wedding I just bring a card with a check. I will reiterate what PP said, online registries will ship to your house.
Post # 7
mentioning your preference for gifts/cash on your blog/invitations/website is tacky and not done.
Don’t register as a pp said. If you or your family are asked about gifts, then it can be explained.
Post # 8
Please don’t mention anything like that. Dont register, and most people will give cash. If someone gives you a physical gift, accept it graciously. You can return or donate it after if you really dont feel like shipping it back. I’m assuming that if you’re having a Destination Wedding (for you) and people know youre moving to another country they would be less likely to give a physical gift anyways.
Post # 9
Thank you all! Helps to have other viewpoints. I will be deleting the “Gift” page 🙂
Post # 10
Honestly, I’ve never been offended by a registry and I would completely understand your situation. In fact, I just attended a baby shower where the couple didn’t want physical gifts for your exact reasons. On their invite they were just honest and said that gift cards from amazon and target would be greatly appreciated and much easier to travel with. People will understand, and I doubt you will offend any one. Plus I always love a registry, because I know I’m getting the couple exactly what they want.