(Closed) gifts?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You don’t sound greedy at all! It’s a very fair question.

Did they attend the wedding? I am the type of person to always bring a gift to the wedding or send it before. I have forgotten a few times and sent something later with a note. They just may be sending you a gift afterwards. I know we received a lot when we got back from the honeymoon and are still getting a few.

Post # 4
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Yes, I actually do think that’s a bit strange.  But, you are right – there is no requirement that one should give you a gift – however, it’s become so commonplace, that it’s odd when there isn’t one… even more so because of your work relationship.

Not that you asked, but when doing thank you notes, I’d still send them on and thank them for being there….

Post # 5
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

That’s totally strange. You are not being greedy; they are being borderline-rude (whether you “have” to give a gift or not). I wouldn’t send them a thank you note just for showing up; their meal was their thank you. But that’s just me.

Post # 6
369 posts
Helper bee

It’s almost expected to receive some sort of gift/card when people attend weddings. I’d never go to one without bringing something. Did you register? Maybe they ordered the item and you never received it? Did any other coworkers give you guys a gift? Maybe ask them on the sly if they know anything about the VP & CEO and if they heard anything about them gifting or not. The worst thing would be that they did get you a gift and sent it, but you never received it.

Post # 7
2681 posts
Sugar bee

I dont think you are being greedy – I know etiquette says dont expect a gift but to be honest if people do attend my wedding, I expect a gift or at least a card.  Maybe they didnt have time to get one before the wedding, I got several gifts weeks after the wedding and one just a week ago and our wedding was June 20th.  Did they go to the wedding?

Post # 9
3332 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think you’re being greedy, I would have wondered about that, too.  You could always write a thank you note to them and thank them for attending the wedding.  If I received a note that didn’t mention my gift specifically, I’d check back in with the bride to see if she had received it.

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