(Closed) what to say to people who want to give gifts if you elope

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Even though we eloped people still sent us gifts. Some people insisted. I didn’t like it but I still graciously accepted. I don’t think it is necessary to register. Just tell people you do not have one. If they get you something it’s by their choice. 

Post # 5
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@sienna76:  We had registered for a couple of things. That was to appease our parents since they really wanted to give us something. Of the people that sent us gifts, I think 2 disdovered the registry on their own and the others sent cash. I would tell people we didn’t have a registry or to not send gifts. It didn’t work obviously.

Post # 6
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I feel very uncomfortable allowing friends/relatives to buy gifts for me if I’ve not invited them to the wedding (or housewarming party, birthday party, etc).  If I were planning to elope, I’d not tell anyon till after it was over, hence lowering the opportunity for anyone to buy a gift, and if asked where I was registered, I’d reply that we appreciated the gesture but preferred that no one buy us gifts.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would create a very small registry for the people who insist. I always had a hard time keeping track of who I told what I wanted for xmas and bdays sinceI come from a divorced family so I started a running “registry” through a national chain of outdoor stores and my grandmother loves it because instead of chassing after what I want and need she just checks the list. Keep telling them no no dont worry but if they insist have a backup plan thats easy and stress free.

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