Post # 1
So I am wondering what everyone is doing for thier bridesmaids, Maid/Matron of Honor, future sister in law, future mother in laws? I guess i feel like I would like to do something nice for them, but not sure if this is usually expected?
Post # 3
My Mother-In-Law is really mean, so I got her nothing (sad but true lol).
For my bridesmaids, I paid for them to get their hair done any way they wanted on the day of the wedding. I also bought them each a gift basket with a bunch of fun girl stuff like a facial scrub kit, a journal, etc. I made sure to add some unique touches to each girl’s basket based on her personal interests, like a pair of MN Vikings underwear for my die-hard Vikings fan Bridesmaid or Best Man. 🙂
Post # 4
Since we’re on a budget, I’ll be getting them a few small things. My favorite is the cheapest: a hand written letter (or long note) thanking them for the role they’ve played in my life and for being a part of this special day, and requesting their continued love, support, and encouragement in this new chapter of my life.
Also, some small things, like a handmade hair flower/brooch (around $5), a personalized decorative hanger (also great to use in photos) ($5), a pashmina (around $10), and maybe a small clutch.
Post # 5
Unless the Future Sister-In-Law is in the wedding, she gets nothing. Normally you don’t give out gifts just for existing, the people need to actually do something to earn them. If you want to give extra gifts then that’s fine but it’s not required.
We still haven’t decided what we’re getting for either set of parents. Our original plan of gift certificates to a B&B fell through so now we’re back at square one.
As for the bridesmaids, I’m currently planning on chocolate brown cashmere pashminas and a $25 gift certificate to their favorite stores.
Post # 6
@indibee: I love your ideas of making them personalized with letters!!! I was thinking of giving them all “wedding day survival kits” with small hairspray, lotion, bugspray (outdoor wedding), mints, etc… but it would be fun to make it more personal with gifts that reflected their personalities! thanks!
Post # 7
We’re just giving gifts to our BMs and GMs and not the parents. We were going to give gifts to the parents too, but we’re on a really tight budget and there’s a lot of jealously between sets of parents going on that we would have to get them all the exact same thing anyway regardless of how much they’re helping or not. It was becoming ridiculous, so we just decided to honour the people who were stepping up with us and just express to our parents how much we appreciate their help.
I’ve got the BMs purses and matching jewellery and we’re getting the GMs personalized flasks.
Post # 8
I think is depends on your budget. I told my sisters I wasn’t getting them anything but the jewelry for their dresses. But they were a HUGE help to me in the wedding so I wanted to show them my appreciation so I went all out and got them each gifts to reflect their personalitly. More importantly than the gift though, I took the time to write each one a personal note thanking them for everything they did and why I loved them. My sis was once in a wedding and the bride, her best friend, basically gave her an IOU. Brides get really busy and don’t always have the time to thank the girls appropriately BEFORE walking down the aisle, so I think it’s a big deal to do so in a personal way. Let’s be honest, though it’s an honor, it’s kinda a pain in the ass to be a bridesmaid and they deserve a proper shout out.
Post # 9
Also, for a cheap and easy and AWESOME personalized gift, the wedding I was just in had a placemat waiting for each of us girls at the head table. It was a photo collage of pics of us and the bride. How freaking sweet! The groom said his bride was showing him up, he pouted because she wouldn’t make him some for the guys, ahha.
Seriously, we loved them and had a blast through dinner trading them around and looking at the photos.
Post # 10
We plan to give our parents really nice photo frames a letter thanking them for their support and a gift certificate. We don’t have traditional attendents, so we will a gift to each of our children who are standing up for us in the wedding.
Post # 12
@indibee: That is an AMAZING idea!!!
Post # 13
Why do you need to give gifts to the whole family? Unless, they are paying for the wedding… I know weddings are half about being hosts to a big party, but they are supposed to be celebrating your marriage. *confused*
Post # 14
I am giving both sets of parents a framed engagement photos, and the bridesmaids are getting purses. Fiance still hasn’t figured out the groomsmen!
Post # 15
I’ll probably get framed engagement photos for the parents and manis for my mum, sis and Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 16
I made sure my BMs knew ahead of time that I wouldn’t be able to help them with the cost of the dress. I’m not requiring special hair, shoes, makeup, jewelry, or anything either. So I think I’ll be contributing a bit towards their dresses as my gift to them, and a handwritten note. I don’t think we’re getting anything special for Future Mother-In-Law, and Future Sister-In-Law is a Bridesmaid or Best Man.