- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
scarlettbegonias87: This may help. We tipped: photographer, DJ, and caterer only. The caterer recommended a tip, I think 18%, for the servers and bartender. They did *not* have a tip jar out. We gave the photographer and DJ I think $150 each…? Maybe $100 for the DJ and $150 or %200 for the photographer. Anyway, it worked out to ~18%.
We gave gifts to: all parents, our officiant (was a friend), bridesmaids and groomsmen, something extra for the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man, my friend who did my hair and makeup, his grandmom who made our invitations, and my aunt who was my DOC. We didn’t go too big for anyone, but I think they all liked them. We got:
Moms: necklaces (non-matching, just ones we thought they would like)
Dads/stepdad: exotic wood tie bars for his dad and stepdad, a typewriter key tie bar for my dad. They wore them day of, although we ask them to.
Bridesmaids: matching necklaces, coordinated but different rings. I think all 3 wore the rings.
Groomsmen: Matching ties and tie bars personalized with their initials. They wore them at the wedding.
Maid/Matron of Honor: Was my sister, I got her a cookbook and another DIY household stuff book, which was great for her.
Best man: He got him some fancy shaving stuff and a packet of razors from the (now-closed) store they worked at together. Kind of sentimental, good for him.
Grandmom/invitations: a succulent garden for her kitchen. (I actually had this delivered since she couldn’t come to the rehearsal dinner)
Aunt/DOC: art glass earrings.
Officiant/friend: matching knot necklace and earrings. (Cause she helped us tie the knot. Hahaha. We’re dorks.) She wore the earrings I believe.
Makeup artist/friend: I honestly cannot remember, but I think it was jewelery plus an Ulta gift card.
We spent $75-100/person I think, maybe a bit less. Almost everything came from etsy.
(I should also add that we asked the guys to wear black suits they already owned and to buy ivory shirts so my dress didn’t look dingy. We asked the BMs to get dark brown dresses in any style. My sister actually wore one she already owned. We weren’t concerned about matching, just coordinating. I’ve seen advice that if you’re insisting your BMs wear the same jewelery that shouldn’t count as their gift since it’s not like it’s chosen for them.)