(Closed) Gifts arriving BEFORE wedding… when to send Thank You?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: When do I send the Thank You note for early gifts? (Especially if we opened one!)

    Right away (like yesterday)

    After wedding

    Later, You have 1 year from the wedding to send "Thank Yous"

    Other (explain in comments)

  • Post # 2
    819 posts
    Busy bee

    Send the plain thank you’s out as soon as you can, no matter where the gifts are being delivered, and maybe send them a separate photo later on if you’d like.

    Post # 3
    5049 posts
    Bee Keeper


    I believe it was Emily Post that said sending a thank you should only take you the amount of time it takes you to retrieve pen and paper (i.e. immediately).

    You should be checking that the item was undamaged and then sending the note immediately.  People want to know their gift was received and was appreciated more than they want a card with a photo of you many months down the road.  Use whatever notecards you have or buy a pack of thank you cards at Target or similar.

    Where the “not until after the wedding day” thing comes from is that you are not supposed to actually use the item until after the wedding day because should the wedding not take place, you are obligated to return the gift.


    As for your other question – is your parents home in close proximity?  You should be sending thank you cards for those asap, too.  If they aren’t in close proximity where you can go over and open them, then you should have them open the outer packaging to ensure the item is undamaged and to relay who it is from so you can send the card.

    Post # 4
    13610 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    The rule is you write thank you notes for gifts that arrive before the wedding immediately, as they are received. Contrary to popular belief, you do not have a year to write thank you notes. People always confuse that with the amount of time that guests actually do have to send you a wedding present

    After the wedding, likewise, thank yous are also due asap, preferably immediately, but no later than a couple of months. 

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