Post # 1
Fiance and I recently received a very generous and LARGE gift off of our registry (it had to be delivered in two huge boxes). It was taking up a lot of space in our apartment so Fiance put it together and we read the card. Do we send our “Thank You” note now? What is the protocol for this? Were we supposed to wait to unwrap until the big day (beginning of October)? I’d prefer to send a Thank You now as it was rather expensive but we don’t have a personalized “Thank You” stationery or wedding specific cards. I do have some pretty, gold thank you cards I could use but I planned on sending out a card with a photo of us on it for the thank you notes. What do you think bees? Thank now or after the wedding?
SIDE NOTE: Our registry actually has any gifts being directed to my parents home because they have space to store them for us before the wedding. [I think these guests used the return address on our invites to send us this gift] Should we be writing notes for any that show up there as well?
Post # 2
Send the plain thank you’s out as soon as you can, no matter where the gifts are being delivered, and maybe send them a separate photo later on if you’d like.
Post # 3
I believe it was Emily Post that said sending a thank you should only take you the amount of time it takes you to retrieve pen and paper (i.e. immediately).
You should be checking that the item was undamaged and then sending the note immediately. People want to know their gift was received and was appreciated more than they want a card with a photo of you many months down the road. Use whatever notecards you have or buy a pack of thank you cards at Target or similar.
Where the “not until after the wedding day” thing comes from is that you are not supposed to actually use the item until after the wedding day because should the wedding not take place, you are obligated to return the gift.
As for your other question – is your parents home in close proximity? You should be sending thank you cards for those asap, too. If they aren’t in close proximity where you can go over and open them, then you should have them open the outer packaging to ensure the item is undamaged and to relay who it is from so you can send the card.
Post # 4
The rule is you write thank you notes for gifts that arrive before the wedding immediately, as they are received. Contrary to popular belief, you do not have a year to write thank you notes. People always confuse that with the amount of time that guests actually do have to send you a wedding present.
After the wedding, likewise, thank yous are also due asap, preferably immediately, but no later than a couple of months.