(Closed) gifts arriving..when to send thank you's?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
3323 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Generic cards ASAP > Wedding photo ones TBD

Send the cards now, but don’t use the item until after the wedding (JIC).

Post # 3
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Just send out the generic ones for now 🙂 That’s what we did until the wedding day. Sometimes it’s nice to know that the couple actually received the item, and a thank-you card helps!

Post # 4
47412 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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alliegeeb :  Thank you cards should always be sent asap. The giver then knows the gift has arrived safely and you have one less thank you note to do later.

Post # 5
2942 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


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alliegeeb :  please, as a guest and gift giver, please just get generic thank you cards.  I much rather know you got and appreciated my gift as soon as possible than get a photo card that I have to feel moderately guilty that it went in the trash in two weeks just like all other thank you cards. 

Post # 6
938 posts
Busy bee

Some people mailed gifts about a month ahead of the wedding.  We waited until after the honeymoon to open any gifts, so we mailed all thank you cards about 3-4 weeks after the wedding.  I think as long as you send a thank you card shortly after your wedding, you’re good.  if someone is wetting their pants by the mailbox waiting for a thank you card immediately, then they need other things to think about rather than ~how thoughtful and inspiring~ your *immediate* thank you card will be.

Post # 7
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

I once had to phone an engaged couple to whom I’d sent a wedding present several months earlier. I needed to know if the store had shipped the present and if it had arrived–all I’d heard from them was months of silence because they were waiting until after the wedding to open their presents. I didn’t need “other things to think about.” I was thinking about whether or not their present had gotten lost somewhere and I would have to go through an enormous hassle to locate it.

A thank-you note should be sent asap. No more than two weeks after the receipt of a gift.

Post # 8
2237 posts
Buzzing bee

Better to send generic ones promptly.  Personally I would have been really embarrassed to go months without sending a thank you.

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