Post # 1
Totally random question – please excuse the ignorance! Are guests attending DWs generally expected to give a smaller gift then they would for a local wedding, since they’re already spending quite a bit on coming to the wedding in the first place? I’m sure there’s no hard-fast rule for this one, but have any of you had experience with this before?
Post # 3
You will probably get a little bit of everything. Some people will give you a small gift (smaller than for a local wedding) and some will not give you anything at all since they may have spent well over $1,000 to travel a long way. It all just depends on what guests want to do and also how much money they had to pay to attend.
Post # 4
I tihnk it also depends on the type of destination wedding…My husband and I had a Destination Wedding, but it was not out of the country. Most guests probably spent at least $600 to travel for the weekend (or more) but ALL of our guests were super generous for both shower gifts and wedding gifts. We were definitely surprised. We were thinking people would spend less, but they didn’t. I think if you are having a Destination Wedding out of the country, or somewhere that everyone needs to pay for airfare, a less expensive gift may be appropriate. You never know though…the people willing to pay for the travel are probably not going to skimp on the gift.
Post # 5
I’ve heard people say that they would spend less for a Destination Wedding. I don’t get it though because my gift isn’t a symbol of how much money I already had to spend to get there but more of how much I could afford to spend on the couple and give them the nicest gift within my budget. I generally spend about 100-150 for a wedding gift and I wouldn’t change it if it were Destination Wedding or not. But then again, maybe I’m biased b/c I’m having a Destination Wedding myself.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t spend as much on a gift for a destination wedding, if I have to travel, pay airfare and hotel and such – that cuts into the budget, so I won’t be shelling out as much for a gift.
Post # 7
We had a Destination Wedding and were expecting NO gifts at all. Our families didn’t comply with that, while our friends did – well, kinda… while at the resort, we did receive the nicest bottle of champagne of the place to share – but no gifts was the rule.
We were surprised to receive gifts from people that couldn’t come; I guess I read here on WB afterwards that some people will send gifts just because they got an invite, but had we known, we would have specified NO GIFTS. We didn’t want any except for enjoying the company of those who could make it and exchanging our vows in a beautiful and intimate setting.
Post # 8
I definitely agree with “egb” as well. We’re not expecting any gifts either and we’d rather have our friends there then get a plate or two lol You definitely shouldn’t feel pressured to give a gift if you can’t afford it. I’m sure they will be very happy with your presence at their wedding 🙂
Post # 9
To me, it wouldn’t matter at all. I’d spend the same amount either way, and have done so in the past.
Post # 10
I would have to agree with some of the others… we had a destination wedding and expected nothing from our guests but their attendance. We were surprised by many who gave us cash gifts.