Post # 1
I’m a new poster, former lurker on the boards. I decided that this might be a good place to ask a question that I have about gifts. Obviously it’s not all about the gifts, but I’m a curious Bee!
I’m converting right now and we’ll be having a Jewish wedding but I’ve never actually been to a Jewish wedding before. My future mom-in law told me that at Jewish weddings, guests don’t bring wrapped gifts to the wedding. They either mail a gift before hand or bring en envelope that they give directly to you at the wedding. Is this actually a rule of thumb for Jewish weddings or is this just what she’s experienced elsewhere? I just kind of want to know what to expect, plus I’ll be going to my first Jewish wedding as a guest in a few months and I want to know how to handle the gift giving situation.
Thanks so much!!!
Post # 3
this has been my experience at the Jewish weddings I have been to, (except they always have card boxes so the guests don’t hand the money directly to the bride and groom.).
Post # 4
That’s actually supposed to be an etiquette rule for all weddings. (The idea is that the couple may be leaving on their honeymoon or whatever, and thus it would be a big hassle for them to pack up and carry home all the wrapped gifts.) However, it seems like a lot of people have forgotten this rule. So it’s unpredictable what will happen.
Post # 5
Oooh thanks ladies! I learn so much on these boards!
Post # 6
I always send the gift anyway. However, if your guests aren’t Jewish / don’t follow formal etiquette rules they may bring their gifts.
Post # 7
Yeah I don’t think this is particular to Jewish weddings.