Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law is insisting on giving favors at the rehearsal dinner. I told her I’ve never seen this at ant I’ve been to as usually gifts are given to most people there as members of the bridal party or parents. I think it’s unnecessary but am not making much head way convincing her. Am I wrong?
Post # 3
I haven’t seen it done, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be done. If it will make her happy, I would just let her do it. The only way I might object was if the favour was totally ridiculous or completely upstaged my favour. And even then, only a small porition of the guests will get both.
Post # 4
I’ve never seen favors at the rehersal dinner, but definitely gifts to the wedding party.
Post # 5
I have never heard of this either. I’ve been to 3 Rehearsal Dinner and they NEVER had favors.
Post # 6
The only gifts I’ve seen at rehearsal dinners are for the wedding party and parents. We won’t be giving favors that night.
Post # 7
I’ve never seen gifts or favors at the rehearsal dinner for the guests (as the guests are usually the bridal party and their SOs), it seems a little overkill and redundant. I have seen gifts presented to the wedding party, but also I’ve been to RDs with no gifts presented. Depending on what your bridal party gifts are. We’re not giving gifts to our bridal party at the Rehearsal Dinner because part of all of their gifts are things to wear the day of (silk ties for the men, in additon to other stuff. earrings or necklaces for the girls, in addition to other stuff). We’ll present a small token to my parents and his parents, but will be presenting a larger, more special gift to my parents one-on-one with just them, as a thank you for paying for our wedding. We’ll probably give the flower girl and our “mistress of ceremonies” (my 12 y/o cousin, aka guestbook attendant) gifts at the Rehearsal Dinner. But that’s it.
Any idea why your Future Mother-In-Law thinks this is something that should be done? Is she going all type-a because this is “her” party that she’s throwing in relation to the wedding? Just curious
Post # 8
Ok u guys have the same ideas I did. I will talk with her about it again and see where that goes.
@MrsDrRose612: not too bad she let us pick the style of place and has invited me to go do the menu with her when she meets with them. The only things are the favors which she is thinking shot glasses as that was an idea for the wedding and then we decided not to and to make coasters instead. And she wanted to send invitations outwhich I also told her was unnecessary as we could tell the amount of people by mouth. That’s how I’ve always seen it done. But I’m kind of going whatever on it because if she really wants toyo don’t want to hurt her feelings she is really just trying to make it nice for us Ijust don’t want overkill
Post # 9
I feel like this is one of those battles that’s just not worth picking. so she wants to go overboard? let her! what’s negative effect can it have?
I’d never seen favors at an rd before my mil deciding to include them at ours–she didn’t even consult me, I was left out of most of the rd planning (after the venue was decided, she “let” me choose there). I probably would have also insisted that it was unnecessary, but in the end, it was fine and really just not a big deal. and honestly, my in-laws are just formal people in general–they do favors for baby and bridal showers too, and other parties (like birthday parties), so it’s just what they do whenever they host.