Post # 1
My wedding is coming up (June 17!!!) and we have an online registry. People started buying us gifts online about a month ago (a few people even earlier than that). Do we send thank you notes now or after the wedding? Does it depend on if they are coming to the wedding or not? Appreciate the help!!
Post # 2
The best rule of thumb for thank you notes in any situation is to send them out as soon as possible– if you can get it done before the wedding, that would be great, but if life gets in the way and you have to send them out after, that’s ok. It doesn’t matter whether they’re coming to the wedding or not, or if the gift arrives before or after.
Post # 3
ASAP!! Like tomorrow. Open it but dont use it.
Doesnt matter if theyre coming to the wedding.
Post # 4
We did ours as soon as we got the gifts. After the wedding, I was so glad I didn’t have a pile of thank yous to write – most of our guests sent something before the wedding instead of bringing something to the wedding. It was nice to only do a few.
Post # 5
I send the thank you right away.
Post # 6
EEEK. I feel like an a – hole. There have been a few gifts that were bought like 2-3 months ago. WOOPS. Will send ASAP.
Post # 7
haha oops for me too, I sent all the thank yous after the wedding.
I purposely waited so that we could thank them for the gift and for attending.. don’t stress out over cards….just like people have one year to give you a gift, you have one year to send a thank you.
Post # 8
newenglandbrideincali : Send them ASAP. You don’t want to forget and when you’re writing a million thank yous when you just want to be done with wedding stuff forever, you’ll be grateful for one that was already done and sent.
Post # 9
newenglandbrideincali : We sent thank yous as soon as we got the gift.
Post # 10
ASAP, people want to know you received the gift! You definitely do not have a year to thank people for their gifts.
Post # 11
Etiquette aside, I found it much easier to write thank you’s as I received gifts. That way I didn’t miss anybody and I didn’t feel like it was overwhelming after the wedding.
Post # 12
mrscbb82 : Just FYI, the “one year to send a thank you” is a myth/mistake. It’s actually one year to send a wedding gift.
Wedding Thank Yous