Gifts before wedding – when to send thank you note?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When to send thank you notes?
    Before the wedding : (24 votes)
    75 %
    After the wedding : (5 votes)
    16 %
    Doesn't matter : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Depends on if they RSVP-ed yes or no : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
    819 posts
    Busy bee

    The best rule of thumb for thank you notes in any situation is to send them out as soon as possible– if you can get it done before the wedding, that would be great, but if life gets in the way and you have to send them out after, that’s ok. It doesn’t matter whether they’re coming to the wedding or not, or if the gift arrives before or after.

    Post # 3
    6828 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    ASAP!! Like tomorrow. Open it but dont use it.

    Doesnt matter if theyre coming to the wedding.

    Post # 4
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We did ours as soon as we got the gifts. After the wedding, I was so glad I didn’t have a pile of thank yous to write – most of our guests sent something before the wedding instead of bringing something to the wedding. It was nice to only do a few. 

    Post # 5
    3302 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I send the thank you right away.

    Post # 7
    40 posts

    haha oops for me too, I sent all the thank yous after the wedding.

    I purposely waited so that we could thank them for the gift and for attending.. don’t stress out over cards….just like people have one year to give you a gift, you have one year to send a thank you.

    Post # 8
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    newenglandbrideincali :  Send them ASAP. You don’t want to forget and when you’re writing a million thank yous when you just want to be done with wedding stuff forever, you’ll be grateful for one that was already done and sent. 

    Post # 10
    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee

    ASAP, people want to know you received the gift! You definitely do not have a year to thank people for their gifts.  

    Post # 11
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Etiquette aside, I found it much easier to write thank you’s as I received gifts. That way I didn’t miss anybody and I didn’t feel like it was overwhelming after the wedding. 

    Post # 12
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    mrscbb82 :  Just FYI, the “one year to send a thank you” is a myth/mistake. It’s actually one year to send a wedding gift.

    Wedding Thank Yous

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