MemberMy wedding is still a few months away, but we have already received some gifts from people who cannot attend. What is the etiquette on thank you cards? Do I send thank-you’s to everyone AFTER the wedding, or should I send a thank-you to those who are not attending but have sent a gift, before the wedding?
MemberFor all gifts received pre-wedding, send the thank you when you receive the gift (doesn’t matter if the giver plans to attend or not). That way the gift-giver knows you received it.
MemberIt is your choice whether to send the thank-you now or after the wedding, but you can at least write it now and mail it immediately after the wedding to save yourself some time later on. I would only send now for gifts for givers that you are sure aren’t coming, because you willa lso want to thank your guests for attending when you thank them for the gift. You can’t really do that in advance. If you want to quiet people’s ease over whether you’ve received a package from them, you can always give a quick phone call, email, or text (depending on the person) saying you got a gift but are waiting until after the wedding to open it and a formal thank you will follow; you just wanted them to know it arrived.
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