(Closed) Gifts – Can someone Clarify

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What gifts will you be giving?

    Gifts for bridesmaids for hosting your bridal shower.

    Gifts for the bridesmaids for hosting your bachelorette party.

    Gifts for all wedding party members for being in your wedding/helping,etc.

    Gifts for parents.

    Gifts for grandparents.

    Gift for officiant.

    Gifts for anyone doing blessings, etc. for ceremony.

    Gift for your spouse to be.

    Other (tell me who I forgot)

  • Post # 4
    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Not all of my gifts will be the same cost….

    Depending on the occasion they will range from $25 (hostess gift) to $200 (officiant gift) etc…

    Post # 6
    1943 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Not doing gifts to BMs for hosting shower/bachelorette, never even heard of that.  But now that you mentioned it, I might buy my Maid/Matron of Honor this scarf I saw and thought of her as a present for planning the shower… hmm…

    Giving gifts to both sides of bridal party.  I bought the BMs jewelery (approx $100 each) but I don’t count that as their gift, although I will probably give it to them at the rehearsal dinner.  They are each getting a certificate for a massage in their hometown (including tip, $100 each).  Groomsmen are getting leather wrapped flasks with their names engraved ($20 each – wow, so different from bridesmaids… whoops!)

    Possibly giving gifts to parents, but we have no ideas, so it may not happen.  If we did, it would probably be in the range of $100-200 per side.

    We only have one living grandparent.  Shoot I never even thought about getting him a gift… now you have me thinking.

    No gift for officiant.  He is getting paid… haha.  Not sure exactly how much, but probably around $200 (OP, that might be what the PP meant)

    Nobody doing extra stuff in the ceremony.

    Giving my Fiance Burberry cufflinks the morning-of (that he already knows about) – $250

    Post # 7
    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We are giving gifts to both our bridesmaids and groomsmen, not for specific parties/events, but one nice gift each to cover everything.  The girls and I will be going out for a nice lunch sometime the week before the wedding and I will present them with their pearl necklaces to wear at the ceremony at this time.  I think he is planning on giving the guys their gifts (cufflinks) in connection with the bachelor party.  We budgeted about $80/gift for this.  The rest of the wedding particpants/helpers we will be giving a bottle of wine at the rehearsal dinner.  For our officiant, who is our priest, we will be making a donation to our church.  We are still discussing whether or not to give our parents gifts beyond corsages/boutineers.  We just bought a house at the end of last year, so we called that our early wedding gift to each other.

    Post # 8
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m just getting the hosts of my shower gifts.


    We have no wedding party (though we would get them gifts if we did)


    The officiant is getting enough money..


    No gifts for parents or spouse. I hadn’t even heard of this before WB.


    We are giving our day of coordinator something.


    Post # 9
    982 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We are giving gifts to all of the bridesmaids and groomsmen at the rehearsal dinner, to thank for them for all they’ve done for us.


    We are also giving my parents a large gift since they are paying for the wedding, we are thinking of a long weekend in Napa Valley. We will probably give FI’s parents a small gift.


    We aren’t giving our officiant a gift, we are paying him, just like any other vendor.  


    Post # 10
    2265 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My BM’s aren’t hosting my shower, so I’m giving gifts to the hostesses. The girls will help but not actually host. 

    Post # 11
    6386 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We are giving the wedding party gifts, we didn’t do showers/parties or make them spend on attire, but they did have to travel.

    We are giving our moms gifts because they helped.

    I am giving my groom a gift because he paid for most of our wedding.  I’m not sure if he’s getting me anything, but I don’t really expect a gift since I’ll have already gotten a house and a wedding.

    We aren’t gifting anything to our vendors, we’re just paying them and sending a thank you card.

    Post # 12
    6980 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I did: 

    Bridal Shower – massage for my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor who co-hosted the shower (90 each)

    Bachelorette – I handmade quilts for each bridesmaid and gave them to them on the bach weekend to thank them for being bridesmaids, generally (cost of about 40 per in materials + lots of time)

    Wedding gift to bridesmaids – a gift bag with thank you note, flip flops to wear at the reception, a wrap to wear if they got cold, and a necklace (which they were free to wear or not wear for the wedding). Total cost maybe 40 each, given at rehearsal dinner

    Wedding gift to groomsman – I honestly don’t remember, but I know my husband got them something that was like 50-ish each (maybe poker sets?), given at rehearsal dinner

    Wedding gift to readers (our siblings) – got a pretty scarf for my SIL and a funny mug for my brother ($15 each), given at rehearsal dinner

    Wedding gift to officiant (my aunt) – a pretty wrap and thank you letter ($25), given at rehearsal dinner

    Wedding gift to parents – thank you letter + IOU for wedding album of their choice (100ish each to three sets of parents), given at rehearsal dinner

    Wedding gift to ceremony musician (my cousin) – vintage beatles record ($30) given at rehearsal dinner

    I think that is everyone…. that I can remember anyways! I also SORT OF did a gift for my husband. We really had no budget left for gifts for each other but i really wanted to do a boudoir shoot/book for him. His birthday was a week before our wedding so I asked him if it would be okay if I just gave him his bday gift a week late, the night of our wedding. ($250ish)

    Post # 16
    12326 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Gifts for all the bridal party and gifts for parents.  I also did gift for the officiant, only because our officiant was my husbands aunt.

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